Finally met an awesome girl ,but out of the dating scene for to long. help!

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  1. quamen

    quamen New Member

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    I met an amazing woman a few weeks ago, and we went on a few dates already. Seems like we are both really into each other, but i have been hurt in the past and really dont want to rush into things. We both in our late 20's and tomorrow night we going to just sit in, cook dinner and watch a movie. I know this sounds odd coming from the male end, but am i being to prude for not wanting to get to physical so soon, in case it leads there? I just feel things start to get alot more complicated and it changes alot between two people, because i want this to be more of a long term thing, not a fling.

    Just kinda uncomfortable since most girls i ever dated, it was never serious or i was never really interested in them, so i could give less. This is the second girl i can honestly say that i am excited to just be arond her and enjoy her company no matter what were doing, but feel like taking it slow is the best thing?
     
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    don't worry about it too much in terms of you being out of it for too long. fwiw, what's the difference how long you've been out of it?

    the other question you might want to answer is are you ready for a relationship because of your past?

    in terms of the physical, you are ready when you are. nothing wrong with waiting.

    finally don't make the situation bigger than it needs to be. sounds like she's already interested in you, just don't ruin it. ;)
     
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    not really sure how slow you want to take it, few weeks is pretty slow already imo.

    but then you also have to consideration how much you see each other in those few weeks, you say a few dates, so i'm guessing you only see this girl 2-3 times a week? if that is the case, then i wouldn't say it's too slow

    If it was me, I don't think taking it to the next level physically would change anything for the worse at this point. If anything, it might make you 2 closer.
     
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    We only went out for 3 dates, because my schedule is kinda messed up at the movement, between studies and work. I can see what you are saying, maybe i am just more nervous then usual because of not being with anyone on a serious level and dont know what to expect.
     
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    I am ready for a relationship, but at the same time i am kinda scared. I dated a couple girls in the past who really screwed me over, cheating, lying etc. Puts me on edge to let anyone else in, thinking i am going to get crushed again.
     

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