i have been lurking this forum for a while searching for what may be the right advice and although i've found numerous matches, none of them seem to fit. basically, i have had bad luck (although some might not call it that) all my life with girls. i finally met one that has got my attention through more than just good looks, and i am thinking that i need to change something unless i want the usual occurance to happen - i.e. we become "friends." it seems that i know alot of people, alot of girls especially, at school but that's where the line is drawn. they're my "friends" not more than that - and don't get me wrong i love having them as that, but somedays a msn conversation just doesn't quite cut it. so basically, i would love tips on where i need to improve, how i can do so, and etc etc. background: i met this girl this year as we share all the same classes and i was put in a group with her. she knows a couple of the same people i know, but beyond that i haven't seen her before. since then we have hit it off prety well, making jokes to each other about the profs. but the last thing i want to do is have "just another" friend. is there a point of escalation i need to recognize? do i need to make my intentions with her known in a sublte way? i have been lacking in this department because everytime i think about doing it i consider if it will impact the group. however, i chalk up that excuse to me just being a pussy and not wanting to take a risk. what's the best way to initiate a level of interest with the girl or gauge if she is at all interested in me... a coffee date was what i was thinking? i've always thought that the phrase "if you can make a girl laugh, you can maker do anything," applies to the love life, but that just doesn't seem to be so. i'm more than likely leaving out important details here, and i'm betting that im blind to some obvious advice - but anything is more than appreciated. you know the feeling where you're just bored with life but scared to do anything about it? yup, that sums it up in a nutshell.