I am writing this because I dont know what to tell my friend. I feel like I should be supportive of any decision he makes but after what this girl did to him, I really dislike her and don't think she deserves him. Ultimately it's his decision obviously, but he's one of my best friends and one of the nicest guys ever. I'm just going to summarize the facts. -Dated for 5 Years, met in school -Engaged since Summer 2008 -He's 29, She's 25 (?) -She's from Long Island -Lived together -Her ex from when she was 18 started texting her after his fiance left him. Must have convinced her that he needed her. She would always say it was her sister texting late night but it was him. She went to long island a few months ago and supposedly cheated on him with this ex. I dont know if he doesnt want to tell me that she slept with him because he's embarassed, or if she really didnt and just hung out/kissed him. She came back and told him within a month, and moved out. She said some nasty things to him online a few times, like really kicking him while he was down...about 2 months went by, he was starting to feel better, went on a date, got a PS3 and a new TV, was doing great finishing up his MBA and ready to move on. Was seriously seeming to be in high spirits....then, she comes back, crying, saying she messed up, needs him, won't ever happen again. (this was after she found out that he was feeling better and he stood up to her bullshit) TO my knowledge he said he'd think about it to her, she slept over, and he hasnt made a decision yet. His whole family is disappointed, his friends. Its like, no one important to him will ever like her again. And that's weighing in big too. He told me this earlier in the week, I'm not sure what has happened since. Going to see him tonight. I feel like I need to present this in a way where I'm being supportive but also a way that will help him to understand the bad and not just think about/remember the good times they had even though they outweigh the bad...because I just have a feeling that this girl will do something like this again - if she can be this heartless while engaged, what will she do later? She'll be able to do it again without care. He's looking at it as being an "isolated incident that won't happen again". Which, I guess it could be, to his knowlege she has never done anything like that to him before in 5 years...maybe she was just scared/nervous about the wedding and she panicked and did something stupid, now is more sure than she thought she was before...that's how he feels. I feel like once she does it and gets away with it/gets him back, she'll do it again knowing she can talk her way out of any trouble in the future since this is like, the most extreme thing she could do in a relationship. He offers up forgiveness and that gives her the idea that he's a pushover...the reason I'm saying this is because it happened to me. I had a really shitty girlfriend that I dated for almost 2 years. Not going to get into it but it was a waste of time. Learned a lot. Dont want to see him get stepped on. Any advice? Thanks in advance. CLIFFS My friend/his girlfriend, 5 years dating, 1 year engaged, lived together, she messed up, left, cheated, was a huge asshole, now wants him back...2 months since breakup.