Intro: Given the past reputation of posts on my threads, I dont exactly expect this to go well, but I need to vent. I'm not mad, just irritated about all this. I'm not sure if there is any advice to fix it, mostly just wanting to rant/write it out. Cliffs: Saying my fiance and my family (immediate) don't get along, is almost like saying water and oil don't mix. They can occupy the same container without exploding, but they don't blend together. Truthfully, I don't get along with my immediate family either. But, as much as I seriously seriously dislike them, they are still my family and I put up with them. Its just difficult to be in the middle sometimes. Details: I have a very pity/hate relationship with my mom. Sometimes I just cant stand how she is, and other times I just feel sorry for her. She is crazy, judgmental, and sometimes a bit racist. She expresses herself in the most irritating ways, and is SO easily manipulated by any 'authoritative' force. However, she is a divorcee with no real friends. She has a difficult time connecting with people. I also feel sorry for her because I'm leaving her alone to live with my sister. My sister is probably the most spoiled bitch I know. She is rude, nasty, and abusive. She cant keep friends very long because they see how she is and cant stand to be around her after a while. Even my extended family knows how insane she is, and doesn't like to be around her. (my family is puerto rican and very much into "family first") My fiance does not get along with either of them well. Especially not my sister, which I understand, like I said, no one likes her. The hardest part is when he doesnt get along with my mom. He's not outright mad at her, but its soooo awkward when we go out to eat or occupy the same car. He tries to be nice, but sometimes just resigns from the conversation and acts like hes not there. She tries to be nice, but sometimes she is in a judgmental mood. Most recently, I've been a little pissed at my mom. She says one thing, and acts another way. Shes done A TON for us, and I really am grateful, and she keeps offering to do stuff. However, she has TWO working microwaves in the same kitchen. I had asked her for one a few weeks ago, and thought she said yes, because, she has TWO, AND ONLY NEEDS ONE. Apparently, I was wrong, she "paid for, and is therefore entitled to two microwaves". Which, I understand, to a degree. What I dont understand, is her offering us other things in the house, offering to pay for $600 couch and love seat, but FLIPPING when I asked to take the extra microwave. side note: we barely have anything. Our wedding shower bombed worse than hiroshima and we are scraping by with bills this month. My fiance just got into our new apartment, most of the stuff he was using in his old apartment was a friends and he couldnt take it with him. Again, we have next to nothing. Mom and I had a slight argument the other day (which wasnt made any better by my bitch sister in the back seat screaming that I am a moocher, and what does it matter I'm leaving in a month anyway). Since the argument, I am VERY reluctant to take anything from my moms house. (the extra folding table in chairs that is not in use at all, the coffee pot, neither mom nor sis drink coffee, or 1 of the 3 printers my mom has, or the microwave she has offered to loan us til we buy a new one) The worst is, when I'm upset at my mom for something like this, I'd prefer for my fiance to be the 'voice of reason', and tell me to let it go, or something like that, but he gets just as upset as I do, and the whole "awkward thing gets sooo much worse when hes mad at her. I'm sure I'm going to get the "you're selfish and immature" speech again, but perhaps we could keep them to the helpful tone this time? For the record also: My extended family loves my fiance. All my uncles and aunts have nick names for him, and they already treat him like part of the family.