So I dated a girl in school for perhaps six months, and mind you I was just a college freshman at the time. We hit it off really, REALLY quickly, and I just let myself fall into the whole affair. Long story short, we become close in just about every sense of the word and I start thinking, shit, marriage? It woudln't have happened until I graduated of course, 'cause of finances and stuff, but the thought was definitely there. Then all of a sudden, the summer hits and we cool off, to the point where we break up at the beginning of my sophomore year. Except we were still having sex, and lots of it. We never really broke up. Things go up and down between us; we like each other, we don't like each other, we hate each other, etc, etc. I find a new girlfriend, she leaves school, and proceeds to fall into the shitter, so to speak. Changes schools twice, goes through an extraordinarily abusive relationship, has a falling out with her family, has heart problems, gets CANCER, and has a miscarriage by one of my fraternity brothers that she'd known since before I knew her (she now hates the guy and won't talk to him). I get back in touch with her sometime about the cancer stage. She has a simple lumpectomy (it's breast cancer) and everything is OK. While she's coming out of anaesthesia, she confesses that she was sorry she broke up with me, and that she loves me (she's never changed on this statement, even when she's not just coming out of a drug-induced coma from surgery). I know she's looking for stability at this point, because that's the one thing she's never really had for as long as I'd known her. I know it's not healthy for someone that's not even really self-sufficient yet to try to provide stability for someone else... really, it's not even good to provide stability for anyone if you ARE self-sufficient, because that makes them a dependant instead of a partner. The thing is that I still want to. Something inside of me is telling me that I'm supposed to be with this girl. Every time I'm around her, I go straight back into the mindset that I had around her when I started dating her: this girl is meant to be with you, and you're meant to be with her. I'm a caring person by nature and that's also something that she's never really had before, and so she's head-over-heels for me and always has been so long as I'd known her. I know it's unhealthy for me but I can't stop wanting to be with this girl, problems or not. I don't even know how to go about thinking about this problem. I've though about it logically (if there is such a thing that can be applied to relationships) and I've thought about it emotionally, even going so far as to pray about it. My thoughts and feelings on the subject never change, not even for a moment. I still want to be with this woman even if it kills me, which in itself is weird because for the most part I'm very casual or even apathetic about a lot of things. I don't even know what I want to really ask of OT. Tips from people who've been there, maybe? CLIFFS: Girl with very unstable past wants to be with me, and I want to be with her even though it's probably a bad idea, and my mind has never changed on it, so I think it's serious. Help!