Female never orgasmed?

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  1. StealingBread

    StealingBread New Member

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    Anyone else had this before? Never orgasmed in your life?
    If so, what did/do you do about it?

    I took an anti-depressent medicine during my puberty years which basically killed all the sex drive. Now that I have a sex drive back, and am sexual active, I am clueless, Having never orgasmed, never masturbated during puberty...

    Any thoughts/suggestions please?

    Flamers/tolls gtfo.

    THANKS :D
     
  2. HuskiRuski

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    how old are you
     
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  4. Cerridwen

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    How long have you been sexually active? :hs:


    Can you orgasm when you masturbate? Do you masturbate? You need to learn what you like sexually and what turns you on. A willing and caring partner will also be very helpful.
     
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    you dont have a disorder. most girls cant orgasm at all until about age 18, and not from vaginal intercourse until their early 20s. don't worry about it kiddo. youre fine.
     
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    Really?? Until they are 18? Why is that? I never knew that. :O
     
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    Since I was 15.
    I don't maturbate because of one reason- it doesn't feel good. I know that sounds so weird, but it's true. For the most part I get wet from the thoughts I have, or from my boyfriend dirty talking, or from him kissing/biting my neck. Rubbing and such just feel ok. Fingering feels better, sex feels best, but I can't orgasm from any of it :[
     
  8. Cerridwen

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    Do you use toys? I never masturbated either until I found a toy that I really liked. :) When you learn to please yourself it will be easier for you to orgasm during sex.
     
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    I bought a vibrator, and it feels great, and make me wet, but doesn't get me there, Should I keep hunting?
     
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    Practice makes perfect ;)
     
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    18 is just a ballpark number, but the point is that many women aren't able to orgasm until their late teens. i'm not sure why this is but i think it's just part of how women develop physically and mentally.

    my advice to you would be to just keep enjoying sex, oral, etc., as it probably still feels good even though you aren't orgasming. don't view orgasm as a goal of your experience. you're young and have many good years left in you; you'll start having orgasms before you know it.
     
  12. Cerridwen

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    I hope you don't mind me taking this quote out of the clusterfuck of the other thread


    If you are only 16 how do you know you have "female arousal syndrome"? Has that been diagnosed by a physician?
     
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    my gyno said i had this
    http://www.healthatoz.com/healthatoz/Atoz/ency/female_sexual_arousal_disorder_.jsp
    (i go the name, cause alot of agruements, sorry)

    because of the chronic depression I have had since i was 9, and The medicines i was on killed my sex drive anyways. Now I am searching for different meds to not kill my sex drive, but help the depression.
     
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    so is that the psychological disorder type thing or the physiological? cause we learned a bit of that in psych class but i dont remember much
     
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    we think its psychological, yeah...
     
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    not that i would advocate this, but you ever try drugs/alcohol during sex?

    edit: specifically marijuana, ecstasy, acid, and/or tequila?
     
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    Nope, never done drugs or alcohol in my life, and I don't plan to.

    But that's and interesting thought- do some people get off from that??
     
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    ..........stop making orgasm a goal.............it'll happen on it's own......................enjoy life..............nothing is wrong with you.........
     
  19. Cerridwen

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    Interesting-thanks for the link I couldn't find anything on it. :) What do your parents think of all this?
     
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    They don't know, likely they don't care.

    They know I have sex and everything, but thats it.
     
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    Just wanna make sure that if there is something to fix it asap, you know? Not fretting on anything, and for the most part i am enjoying life.
     
  22. Cerridwen

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    :hs: I can't imagine not caring about my 16 year old daughter having sex. You have access to birth control and everything, right?
     
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    psychoactive drugs should never be used to solve a personal problem. period.
     
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    Haha! This coming from someone who's SN is Don Ganja <3
     
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    Of course. I discussed this for a long time with my parents. Im on BC pills and use a condom almost everytime. They care that I have sex, and am safe, but I think they don't care/don't wanna hear about whether I masturbate or can orgasm or not...
     

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