Hey all, Just a quick reference of the situation I've been in over the past year: http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=2336834 Brother-In-Law passed away: http://www.straferight.com/forums/off-topic/169833-my-personal-day-hell-death-family-long.html Ok, now you're all caught up. Lately, me and my sister are starting to see some post-death stress that this has started. Lemme go around the intermediate family. My mom has been spending the nights here at my sister's and putting ny niece on the bus in the morning, and picking her up off the bus in the evenings. Between the times while she's in school, Mom goes home to take care of bills and housekeeping. Before hand, she ran the house; bills and cleaning and so on and so forth; the textbook housewife. Dad does nothing but work, period. He owns three companies, a towing company, a gas station, and is a bus contractor. He has very little time to spare. At my home, where he's been alone at nights, are our two dogs, a 2 year old Golden Retriever and a 11 year old Chihuahua. They aren't getting barely any attention, play wise. They're left at home, alone, all day long. Before hand, he'd come home to a house with me and mom in it. I took care of the dogs, mom the house. My sister is recovering, from what I can see, very well. She's gotten back into her 4-day-a-week, 10-hour days, workaholic mode. She's getting back into her rhythm of the life she had before my brother-in-law's health declined so badly that it effected everything. My grandfather, who lives next door to my parent's house, has always been a person that kept to himself. Over the past few years though, he's gotten to become EXTREMELY lonely. The circulation in his legs aren't great, so he only travels when he needs to. My sister told me tonight that he was willing to pay someone to come to his house ans just sit and talk to him, for company. And me... . I'm 22 years old and I feel like I'm holding a lot of burden on me. I'm the 'man of the house' now that I'm, for all intents and purposes, living with my sister. I'm trying to look toward the future with my girlfriend of (soon to be) 7 years. My finances aren't looking too great [30,000/year], and I feel helpless to the fact that my grandfather's entering full blown depression, my mom and dad seem to bicker and fight more now, and everything just seems to be falling apart. That's been the last 4 months. Last night, Mom and my sister had a fight. Mom's a pack rat; my sister learned from Mom and is hellbent on keeping a non-clutter house. Now Mom said that she won't be spending the night anymore because he doesn't feel welcome. As of a few minutes ago, my sister told me they talked and that all is well now, but I fear that another fallout will happen again. Somehow, with ALL of that circling me, I'm feeling pressure about my future. I'm wondering how long my sister is going to need my help. She used to go grocery shopping with my bro-in-law, and now it's hard to do since my niece goes "Look, that's what Daddy liked!" every two seconds. This is just one of the little reminders that he's gone. I'm wondering how, when me and the little lady get hitched, when we're only making $70,000 a year, can live happily where the average price of a house within a 30-mile radius start in the $200,000 range, not to mention my vehicle bills and her upcoming student loan payments. I'm worried that I'll be hitting a glass ceiling at work; I work at 2 libraries, both part-time, where I.T. makes decent pay, but has no advances for obtaining a A.A., or even a B.A. Anyway... I'm sure there are other things that are irking my nerves, but I'm very tired. I weigh 200 pounds, and have been started running 4 miles a day while watching Season 1 of Prison Break and Season 1 of House MD, getting my mind off things and physically exhausting myself so that I can get a decent night sleep on my queen size air matress tonight. Anyone who can give me any advice, shoot me a line. I could use a pat on the back.