SRS Feeling Lost

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  1. nsane

    nsane New Member

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    Hi everyone,

    I've been in college for two years. When I came here, I knew a few guys from highschool that I'd known since elementary school. So basically, I never moved on from my set of highschool friends. I have a few new friends, but not nearly as many as when I was in highschool, mostly because I spend most of my time hanging out with the people I live in the dorms with (the guys from highschool). I realized this at the beginning of this semester and I've been working to make new friends and connections around campus. It's working out I guess, I haven't made any really serious friends, but it's nice to have new people to talk to. I get out, but I just haven't made any serious connections.

    Anyways, one my hs friends assumed I'd be his roommate next year. It's the first year I'll be able to move off campus, and I really need a room mate, but I already know I don't want to live with this kid and I can't stand his parents (they're really condescending and since they've known me since I was a child, they tend to treat me like one). Well, this late in the game, it kind of sucks but I told him I don't want to room with him because I want to get out and meet new people beyond my current group of old friends. So he's understandably hurt and in need of a place to stay.

    So I just feel lost... Basically because I've abandoned my old friends. They weren't that great - they did stupid stuff like tell my GF I was cheating on her when I wasn't, mess with my stuff, never give an inch of privacy, etc.
    But I don't have new ones (yet) and I don't have a place to live. It's going to be like starting all over, which kind of sucks. I wish I had just roomed with random people at the beginning of school.

    I've found a couple of places to live, one of them has a couple of guys that seem like they could be decent friends. I almost want to live in the dorms another year so that the difficulty of finding new people isn't there. But to me, that's just being weak - I know I can move out with people I don't know.

    I feel like I've written this post and basically gotten nowhere. I just want some advice or understanding regarding my situation... thanks.
     
  2. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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  3. Lateralus

    Lateralus New Member

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    It sounds like you're on the right path and making some changes for the better, if I were in your situation I would probably try to stay on campus for one more year, but either on your own or with new roommates.
     
  4. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    You should look at those bold words. Expand your friend circle is the best thing you could do!
     

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