Im 21 I live at home and go to college. Just recently i have come to the realization (at least in my opinion) that i was not raised well. The title of this thread should give you an idea of where im going. The reason i say father figure issue(dont know the correct terminology), i dont believe i had one, though lived with both my parent's all my life. He is in simple words an asshole. His answer to everything is short sentences which are very inconclusive, he looks at things and picks them apart, he never communicates with any of the family members, my mother wanted to leave him ( he wouldn't attend marriage counseling) but she is just to scared to (my opinion), he's never physically abused us though(to my knowledge), to get us to do something he doesnt ask he yells and he expects it to get done immediately (recently ive been getting peeved at that and told him i had things to do and will get to it later, wich i do), he's hard to talk to because all his words are sarcastic (o boys, oks, etc.), i have a hard time looking at his eyes because they just look so full of hate at the world and at us, in general he makes me feel like shit. I feel i have missed out on a big part of my development, i have a problem talking to people, i cant maintain eye contact, i always think everything that happens is my fault, sorry for the poor English but it is hard to write about. To anyone who cares enough to answer this, what should i do, is there any way to make up lost ground? am i just trying to throw the blame on him? what should i do, make it work? move out?