SRS Family taking legal custody of my mom :hsd:

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  1. 6SpeedTA95

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    Hey guys, to give you a little background...

    My mom has been a bit strange her entire life, maybe no more than some other people but my dad always said that something just wasn't quite right and it started after she had her first kid (me). When I was little she'd stop and pickup people on the side of the road because "God told her to" well eventually things went downhill to the point where she thought people, the government and others in this grand conspiracy were spying on her. So she'd tell my dad about this stuff. She felt she could trust my dad and due to my dads back ground as a cop and his frequent visits to DC and the whitehouse she felt he had an inside track and could help protect her. Of course the reality is no one is trying to kill her and no one is stalking her on a federal, state or any governmental level.

    In August of 2002 my dad started having bad headaches, by the first week of september the tests came back and he had a brain tumor. Phase 4 GlioBlastoma, prognosis 1 yr with treatment 6 months without. My dad has several brain surgeries several short periods of being in coma's and finally on Nov19 2002 he died. The time frame was just over 2 months from diagnosis to death. This of course set my mother off, the "conspiracy leaders" killed him and they were going to get her next. Then a year later, my grandfather died. Again same deal, the hospital, doctors and nurses were paid off by the members of this grand conspiracy to kill him. :rolleyes:

    Well my youngest brother was only 14 when my dad died so needless to say this was very hard on him. This whole time he's been living under her roof, he doesn't want to go live with our other brother or with me because all his friends are by home. I understand that, but this has still had a very adverse affect on him. He's forced to partake in her religious activities on friday nights and all day saturday, now he's 17 almost 18 he's old enough to make his own decisions.

    My mother's health has continued to deteriorate because she doesn't go see doctors of any kind. She takes all this herbal medicine and thinks that the medical community is just there to somehow kill her. The result? Well she's been having vision problems for about 5 or 6 months now. Slowly its gotten worse. Last month we finally talked her into going to some eye doctors who said it appears to be some form of glaucoma. She said that wasn't true that it wasn't glaucoma that it had something to do with her nerves. She said she's been having trouble sleeping, her feet burn and she's been having other nervous system issues. So I said to her ok go see a nuerologist, dont waste anymore time. Also go see an eye specialist. I talk to a friend of the family thats a doctor and he thinks her nervous system symptoms sound like possibly parkinsons. So I finally get her to go see an eye specialist who diagnoses her with narrow angle glaucoma. She then gets up during the test procedure and walks out because she doesn't like his diagnosis. Since then she's refused to get medical help.

    Needless to say I got an email this morning from my aunt saying that her and my other brother were going to push for guardianship. So I'm supposed to sign and get notorized the papers and fax and certify mail them. Which I plan on doing.

    Wondering if anyone has some advice or has been through anything similar and can help give me some guidance.
     
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    This will get better responses here.

    Sorry to hear about your situation. My mom did something similar for her mom toward the end of her life, but (luckily?) she didn't really know it. I hope your situation works out for the best...and you're right, your brother needs to get out and you should *make* him go see a therapist. He's going to have a lot of shit on his plate and he'll need somewhere to put it...a therapist can help him, even if it's just to listen.
     
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    I'm sorry to hear that :(

    We went through something similar after my grandmother mysteriously passed out in an Eckerds store. She fall directly backwards and shattered her skull on the hard floor, resulting in brain damage which caused alzheimers-like symptoms.

    I was younger at the time and didn't have much to do with the process, so I don't have any advice for you. Just wanted to say I hear ya and support you.
     
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    Thats what I've tried to tell him, so far he's basically told me to go fuck myself :hsd:

    I think maybe after things settle down and maybe my mom gets helped then we can get my brother in to see a therapist.
     
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    Holy crap, she just broke her skull literally?

    The plan is to get custody get her into a hospital where the state can monitor her for awhile. At that point I think she'll get on some meds and get better. We're pretty sure she has paranoid schizophrenia (did I spell that right?) the symptoms she exhibits are damn similar if not identical to others with paranioa. The wierd thing is I was talkin to a friend of mine and we somehow got on the subject and her mother in law is the exact same way, almost an identical story. The grand conspiracy to kill her, but God is protecting her an dhas these grand plans for her. It was wierd to hear the almost identical similarities and stories from others who have friends/relatives with paranoid schizophrenia.

    My primary concern right now is that my mother will "disappear" when she gets her papers today.
     
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    Maybe she should be put in some kind of "supervised, independant living" home, where she would be surrounded by friendly nurses, other people with similar problems?? that way you could sleep sound at night knowing shes safe?
     
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    Your mother sounds like a classic case of schizophrenia (my mother and my wife were social workers and would tell me about the symptoms of their patients :hs: ).

    It sounds like she is a danger to herself. I hope it all works out for you and your family because these types of situations have a way of turning family members against each other.

    Hopefully she can get on the correct medications and someone can get through to her that life is not exactly as she percieves it.

    Good luck :hs:
     
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    it's hard to get past the whole macho "i don't need to talk to anyone" bullshit. Keep trying because it will help.
     
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    Well all the papers are filled out. They will serve my mother her court papers tomorrow :hsd:

    I'm still uneasy about this even though I know its the right thing.
     
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    I hope everything goes well tomarrow :x: , and i hope she doesn't "dissapear" on you guys, because it seems as if she needs help and isn't willing to do what is necessary on her own, sometimes it's better to simply take the options away from people when they get to that point.

    We had to do something very similar for my grandfather who has alzheimers, when we moved him to assisted living, since he really didn't want to go, but my grandmother couldn't handle it all by herself any longer. i wish i could give you some advice but i wasn't a part of it.

    as the saying goes, "life's a bitch, then you die" :hsd:
     

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