SRS family member going through depression...

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  1. Vailripper

    Vailripper Daywalkers have feelings too.

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    My brother is going through some very serious depression. He has been going to a therapist for several years, and takes an anti-depressant (welbutrin, I believe), yet he is having major issues. Has anyone here gone through something like this?

    I just feel so incredibly helpless, I don't know what to do.
     
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    What is he depressed about? Does he ever tell you?

    No one is just depressed for no reason, everyone has a reason.
     
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    Well, do you know anything that your brother loves to do? Or talk about. You know just coming by his place or buying him a favorite gizmo of whatever he likes would be a wonderfull way to try to cheer him up.
     
  4. PurpleSplat

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    There are instances where people get depressed for no reason. It's a chemical imbalance.

    What needs to be done is that people need to learn how to focus their concentration on helping people with real problems, and not Joe Dork who can't afford a BMW.
     
  5. PurpleSplat

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    Depression doesn't really work like that.
     
  6. Vailripper

    Vailripper Daywalkers have feelings too.

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    In 6th grade he met some pedophile on a message board who tried to convince him he was gay. The guy was caught before he could do anything physically, but he has very low self esteem as a result. In addition, he has ADHD and mild Aspbergers, so he has a very difficult time keeping friends. I think the main source is that he just can't keep friends. My parents are moving him to a different school district (at his request) to a school close to where my mom works which has much less pressure than where he is currently. However, he still talks about how he's all alone, doesn't want to go outside alone, and has essentially zero motivation.

    I guess I just feel like it's completely in his head, so I don't know what there is I can do.
     
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    Vailripper Daywalkers have feelings too.

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    Yeah, he's just so deep in it, it's like he doesn't even hear you when you tell him it will be okay.
     
  8. Zsadist

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    i've been in a similar situation.. my depression was so bad i ended up in the hospital's mental health ward. i have to say the medicaion helped. it just depends on how long hes been on it and the dosage they have him at. if hes been on it for a while it might be the wrong medication for him. it might just take time. the change of school's might help if there's less pressure on him. if at all possible take him out some places with you and your friends try to get him out of the house as much as posible and socialising. you (or your parents) can also talk to his theorpist about family cousniling to help you better understand whats going on with him right now and differnt ways to help get threw this. they can be a big help if the whole family is willing to go.also ask about group counciling if he can talk about him problems with other people his age who are going threw similar things it might also help.
     
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    Your brother needs to be engaged in something at school. I spent much of my time in highschool extremely depressed, BUT through sports and having teachers become involved in my life, I found something which engaged me. Buying shit is not going to help, saying everything is going to be ok is not going to help, giving him meds is not going to help either. What is going to help, is him, or with some assistance, finding something which makes life worthwhile for him, and gives a sense of fulfillment.

    Give him a book to read, not one of those piece of shit self help books, give him something to read which will inspire him. I would recommend "Atlas Shrugged." I speak from personal experience.
     
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    Vailripper Daywalkers have feelings too.

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    I'll look into that group counseling, I think that might help. I live 2 hours away, so I try to go home on the weekends but I can't always make it happen.
     
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    Vailripper Daywalkers have feelings too.

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    He plays lacrosse and does wrestling, and wants to do some sort of ski team, but the problem is now his motivation is so little that I can't get him to actually do anything. I was trying to get him to find a hobby or something so he can get over how crappy he feels, but he just doesn't really want to do anything.
     
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    you can really tell the people that know about depression, by the way the act, other than the ignorant fucks who call depressed people pussies.. yeah, a brain chemical abnormality is because a person is a pussy :ugh2:
     
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    If that is the case he is lacking some meaningful social relationships, which is difficult to change if you have a condition like his.
     

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