ex's and lunch?

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  1. Juice

    Juice New Member

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    so an ex of mine messaged me last nite, i hadnt talked to in over a month, so it was nice to hear from her. asked if i wanted to meet up over the weekend, get some lunch and come see my new house...??

    does OT think this is a good idea, or should i not even get back into it?? ugh!

    (btw, its not that crazy stalker girl in previous posts..)
     
  2. jag6984

    jag6984 New Member

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    I wouldn't even bother. Why pour salt on old wounds? If you haven't talked in over a month, you probably don't really need to.
     
  3. GRocks10

    GRocks10 New Member

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    Well.. give us the background.. why did you two break up originally? How long did it last, etc etc.
     
  4. JekJek

    JekJek OT Supporter

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    i personally break all contact with ex's , just cuz of the fact that old feelings always come back
     
  5. Dragknee66

    Dragknee66 OT Law Enforcement Crew

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    go talk to her
    maybe youll even get lucky :naughty:
     
  6. NJGuy

    NJGuy "Fuckmefuckmefuckmefuckmef uckmefuckmefuckmefuckm OT Supporter

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    Do it once... for 1-2 hours at most.
    Im sure you can muster up enough self control for a couple hours.
    Just dont go making dates with her and letting her back into your life.


    ONCE....
     
  7. RotiEatter

    RotiEatter New Member

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    Eat lunch. Tour of house. Fuck her in your new house. Offer to have lunch again, go for lunch again, if she doesn't put out leave her. If she puts out, make her your fuck buddy.... If you want that.

    But like the other guy said, has a lot to do with the break up terms and such.
     
  8. JordanClarkson

    JordanClarkson OT Supporter

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    I'm still friends with my ex's but I would be lying if I said nothing ever bothered me. It's the price I pay to have friends though because other than my ex's I don't really have many friends aside from online
     
  9. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    you guys are exes for a reason, why go there again?

    it won't "be different this time"

    Of course, no-strings-attached sex is a possiblity
     
  10. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    Her mosa? ITS MY MOSA!!!
    Why not just go to catch up? It's not like she asked if you two could get back together. Maybe she just wants to hang out.
     
  11. [HRT]Squirrel Master

    [HRT]Squirrel Master New Member

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    maybe thats hard for some people..... JUST MAYBE!
     
  12. Cerridwen

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    Are you a man or a woman?
    The only reason I've ever contacted any of my ex's was to get back together :o
     
  13. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    I am a woman. I am friends with a few of my ex's. Some I cannot be friends with. I think it depends on the ex. If they are bitter/ jealous/ and vengeful then no I cannot be friends with them. But if they are low key then of course. Just because I am physically intimate with someone does not mean that the emotional friendship bond cannot work. I am still friends with my high school sweetheart, sure it took a few years, but we are friends now. Whenever he is in town we have lunch or something. Also my most recent ex and I are friends. We hang out, party together. He is more like a big brother to me now. He watches out for me, and I watch our for him. Things are fun and comfortable. ;) That took about 6 months of us not talking too. I am not saying it is always a good idea, or that you should try to be friends right away. But after a while why not? :dunno:
     
  14. Mojo

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    as a friend, maybe. depends on situation between the 2
    if you think your gonna get back with her or dont want to, no



    just remember to be a good citizen/person whichever path you choose.
     
  15. rkf76

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    Is there a possibility you can start to have feelings for her again? If so, I say avoid this at all costs. If not, go for it, nothing to lose.
     
  16. 1200mk

    1200mk Still same OG

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    i wouldn't mind, but 1 month might be a lil too early.
     
  17. JordanClarkson

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    That reminds me. It works well to think of your ex as a brother/sister and try to constantly reinforce that belief. Here's my thread from a couple years back

    http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=894856
     
  18. Lance1019

    Lance1019 Get ready for a punch in the dick!

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    Seriously, if you want to nail her again you could. Thats usually what all that means.
     
  19. Juice

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    see thats the thing.. me and her became really really close, and were seeing eachother for a few months.. then we broke it off because she was moving out of state. so about 2 months go bye and i IM her askin if she wanted to hang out before she left and whatnot. so she came over like right away, by the end of the nite we were in her back seat :hsd:.. it was great, it was like old times again. but we never made anything "official" of it.. then a few weeks go bye and thats when i got the text from her about lunch..

    shit, as i type this i am thinking to myself, this sounds like she just wants some sexing :naughty: which is totally fine w/ me...

    thanx OT.. i'll update it when the time comes
     
  20. chica&buddies

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    i'm friends with my "high school sweetheart" as well. we didn't talk for a while, then he contacted me, i responded, lost touch, and i recently called him on his birthday of this year. :wiggle: we hope to meet up in the near future :)... we both live in the same state now, but he's ~8 hours away.

    but ya, i'm all about being friends with ex's. i don't see it any other way! :) i love to keep people in my life that mean a lot to me. :( i'm trying to help my brother's ex feel the same way.
     
  21. ProneToEpisodes

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    Bad idea...... Esp if you have a new SO its disrespectful to the new person. The ONLY reason an ex wants to hang out one on one is to try to get someone back. Catching up is crap and we all know it.
     
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    Dont get me wrong Im all about being friends with ex's and hanging out in groups but no one on one time.
     
  23. Juice

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    thats the thing, i dont have a new SO.. but we'll see what happens this weekend :wiggle:
     
  24. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    Her mosa? ITS MY MOSA!!!
    Hey now, durka durka and I do one on one things and there is nothing there
     
  25. [HRT]Squirrel Master

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    I could never do it.... dont know why.... but I just couldnt. I think its the right thing to do as well. Someone always has left over feelings and it isnt very fair to them.
     

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