Expressing your feelings!!!

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  1. StopDrop&LOL

    StopDrop&LOL "Where The Elite Become Champions"

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    I have a question. I've seen people discuss in the Vag not expressing feelings, or atleast admitting your feelings, to your S.O.

    If i can remember correctly, i think i've only told one girl i loved her and actually meant it. In my previous relationship, i knew deep down inside that i loved the girl. I knew she loved me too, but neither of us really expressed that verbally. It was kind of like a taboo so to speak. Ever since her i've found it hard to communicate my feelings with women. Im not talking about saying "oh baby, i love you" after knowing her only 1 month. I know that wouldnt do much for the relationship and her interest in me. Im just talking about communicating my feelings in general.

    When is it appropiate to tell a girl how you feel.
     
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    never. keep them inside where they supposed to be
     
  3. StopDrop&LOL

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    thats what i did in my last relationship :hsugh:
     
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    If you are able to SHOW your feelings then saying them out loud isn't really needed except for certain times. And it isn't like anyone can give you a list of those times (ie: birthdays, anniversarys, etc :greddy:)

    The whole thing is just being able to express your feelings, so if you can do it through actions then there is no real point in going overboard verbally.
     
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    StopDrop&LOL "Where The Elite Become Champions"

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    Well we did a good job of expressing our emotions through our actions, but i just thought it was weird we never said it verbally. I was just wondering if i did express them verbally would it have any negative impact like it would when you tell a girl early on youre in love with her?
     
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    I'm torn on this subject as well. I think I'm starting to develop strong feelings for the girl I'm seeing now, but I'm really apprehensive about expressing anything verbally. It's only been a couple months anyway... I like the idea of taking action though. I'll continue that. I like the idea of letting her advance the relationship emotionally. After all that's how they tick :o
     
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    I would definitely wait to hear her say it first. Which may take some time, depending on the woman.
     
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    :werd:

    thats what i thought would have happened, but it never did, so i kind of just rolled with it :o

    Im just trying to figure out if its a good idea to express them verbally, so in future situatios i know how to handle the issue
     
  9. Chip Chipperson

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    uhmm, when she's your girlfriend you guys aren't trying to feign disinterest anymore. It's ok to tell her you like her. it's ok to tell her why you like her, and that you enjoy spending time with her...

    you should be doing that shit as early as the first time you have sex, just don't do it from a needy/insecure place
     
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    StopDrop&LOL "Where The Elite Become Champions"

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    Thats what i thought, i just wasnt sure though
     
  11. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I find it funny how hard it is for guys to truly admit how they feel for fear it makes them less of a man or something. Yes,you went can obviously show her how you feel...but if you really feel for it makes for it her how and its in moment then just fucking say it.
     
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    It's pretty ridiculous how some people rationalize away this fear by claiming that it is the woman's responsibility to say it first.

    If you feel it, say it. Don't be a pussy.
     
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    sorry to disagree with the master here:mamoru:. but from my experiences with the "L" word, you gotta keep that shit special or else it loses meaning. never say you love a chick just because she says "I love you". I love you is simply a masked version of saying "do you love me?". Far too many people add on I love you after saying bye without her earning it. this isn't feigning disinterest, this is keeping the words special so they have the effect you want when you want.

    Say I love you whenever you want randomly
    Say I love you right when you're making her cum so hard she's crying
    Say I love you when she gets you a beer to go with the dinner she cooked you
    but never say it simply because you feel obligated or she said it first.
     
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  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    My SO and I say "I love you" every so often. We don't run it into the ground like some couples (to the point where it's lost all meaning). It makes it feel more special and genuine when I do hear it.
     
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    Where is this place? :o
     
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    StopDrop&LOL "Where The Elite Become Champions"

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    See, thats what im talking about. There were ocassions in the past where i really felt like saying it, but i didnt know how she would preceive it and how it would affect the moment, so i hesitated. Like you said though, its just those special ocassions where its appropiate that make it meaningful.
     
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    I wasn't really talking about that - the man seemed like he was afraid to ever even compliment the girl
     
  18. Jackie Treehorn

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    So what about the whole theory that it's the womans responsibility to escalate the relationship emotionally, and the man's to escalate it physically?
     
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    :eek3::bowdown:

    Thats where i went wrong in my last relationship and i've learned my lessons from that.

    Being passive aggressive gets you no where.
     
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    thats accurate, but once you have violated her every orifice it doesn't have much relevance, does it?
     
  21. Jackie Treehorn

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    my nga :coold:
     
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    StopDrop&LOL "Where The Elite Become Champions"

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    Is that your theory on things?
     
  23. Jackie Treehorn

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    No, just what I've heard from others who have had more experience than me on the matter.
     
  24. Jackie Treehorn

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    If it's not emotional, what is it? :dunno:
     
  25. Jackie Treehorn

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    Insightful. Thanks
     

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