LGBT Explain this "top" and "bottom" thing to me

Discussion in 'Lifestyle' started by Werm, Dec 21, 2007.

  1. Werm

    Werm Guest

    A guy I work with doesn't take it... apparently.

    I guess I always thought you guys took turns...

    So in a relationship one always takes and one always gives? How does the taker get off? :hsugh:
     
  2. novo

    novo Pokey Man OT Supporter

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    some people like different things. it's all up to the individual
     
  3. compu_85

    compu_85 Woooo! 60HP!

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    Some people like taking more then giving. Prostate stimulation can get you off...

    -Jason
     
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    zortnac New Member

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    Supposedly stimulating the prostate can give you a huge orgasm.
     
  5. ExDelayed

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    A lot of it can also depend on the guys together. There are other factors that play in the sexual part of any relationship, either just a hookup or something long term. Personally, with the guys I run into around here, I prefer to be on top. Body type, personality, build, cawk size, etc will be a factor in it. Some guys are big enough that the average out of practice bottom will not be able to take it without a lot of time/work so it just makes it easier to swap positions if is just going to be a one night thing. Some just prefer to be penetrated for the reasons mentioned or for the mental aspect of having another man inside of them.

    Sometimes ya just gotta get fucked and none of that matters. :mamoru:
     
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    Oh, top/bottom can refer to pretty much any position. The person getting penetrated is the bottom.
     
  7. Werm

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    But are there "top or bottom" ONLY people? Every time I see it... thats what seems to be implied.
     
  8. novo

    novo Pokey Man OT Supporter

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    that's probably just what they prefer.
     
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    Tis true :naughty:

    And yes, prostate stimulation does get certain people off (Myself included)
     
  10. kidwiththeshirt

    kidwiththeshirt I'm gay, big deal, wanna fight about it?

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    yeah, i only do one and i get off from it ;)
     
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    I peg you as a bottom. amirite?
     
  12. novo

    novo Pokey Man OT Supporter

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    i'm a top but i always seem to be attracted to/attract other tops, like my bf for example.

    which is weird because there are soooo many more bottoms than there are tops. the odds ought to be in my favor =/
     
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    Abolishinist New Member

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    I have yet to find out which I prefer, but ill tell you one thing I dont plan on ever letting someone tell me they are strictly Top or bottom.

    I dont care how attractive they are, if they tell me they will only top or bottom im gone, simple as that. Especially if its a long term relationship.
     
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    I can see how not being able to switch it up every now and then would get rather annoying after a while :o
     
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    Me, I'm 80/20 bottom/top. For me I enjoy the feeling of being dominated, submitting, being controlled by a top.
     
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    im for sure 50/50
     
  17. Sam Gamgee

    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

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    I'm 80% top, 20% bottom.
    I love taking it, but my partner is quite huge... so it's not often that I have the resolve to handle being impaled.
     
  18. kidwiththeshirt

    kidwiththeshirt I'm gay, big deal, wanna fight about it?

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    yeah bottom here. i don't like topping, i even feel awkward doing it
     
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    I never got off being a bottom, but I don't dislike it.

    I can also top... Depends on the mood. I've been without sex since August though. :ugh:
     
  20. CoCo

    CoCo ...is a Queer Don!! OT Supporter

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    I'm a bottom, unless asked to top. I never get complaints about being primarily a bottom. But then again, until recently I never really dated 'gay guys'. Now that I have gotten over my need to get with str8 guys, I've been topping about 15% of the time.

    Oh, and when I bottom, I never have to physically touch my penis. I have world-shattering orgasims JUST from being fucked.
     
  21. kidwiththeshirt

    kidwiththeshirt I'm gay, big deal, wanna fight about it?

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    i don't think orgasms has an 'i' in it
     
  22. Ivan

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    I want that to happen to me. :wtc:
     
  23. CoCo

    CoCo ...is a Queer Don!! OT Supporter

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    I don't know how that got in there. I must have been tired. :o
     
  24. Wolf

    Wolf No one plans to take the path that brings you lowe

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    I've heard that. :eek5: :hsugh: :mamoru: :hsughr:
     
  25. fez1juan

    fez1juan spadoinkal!

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    Ok this is so funny to read bc i am a hard core bottom mainly bc i am new to the whole thing but i try so hard to be a top and no sir. I have no idea how my boy friend does it especially how agressive i am. We've tried 4 times sober and drunk and I am such a chicken shit. I hate it bc he tells me it takes a real man to take it up the ass and i am starting to agree with him. Even if I am the "man" in the relationship. Im just weird i guess.
     

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