Backstory: I lived with a girl for nearly 5 years. In the end, we grew apart, and rather than end it, I got drunk one night and cheated. I moved out of our house, she stayed there for a few more months, then eventually moved into another home we own together. For a while, she was desparate to get me back, then got a new boyfriend, and went from talking to me daily to not talking to me at all. At first, I had a problem with this. However, OT convinced me that I was being a selfish bastard and I wasn't letting her live her life or move on. Since then, I haven't tried to contact her or speak to her. However, yesterday, she e-mailed one of my employees asking for advise about the home she lives in. She had made many incorrect assumptions, some of which could have been very, very costly. I e-mailed her, kept it stictly business and told her how to straighten out her situation. At the end of the e-mail, I asked her how I could return the boxes of her stuff she left at my house, and her pet python. We e-mailed back and forth a few times. All was cordial. Pretty generic. Nothing personal was said, and it was about the same tone I'd maintain with any typical client. I offered to help if she ever needed it, reassured her that she was in a good position with her deal, and that was it. She was greatful and things were friendly. Then randomly, out of the blue, this evening she writes me an e-mail saying that she'll never speak to me again. Period. She felt it was disrespectful to her new boyfriend (she cheated on him with me a few times, he knows about it) and she didn't want to be friends in any capacity. Also, she said she doesn't want to, and can't see me; and that she didn't like me knowing so much about what was going on in her life (which is plainly retarded because she does nothing but broadcast it to people she knows will talk to me about it). This was odd, because I didn't mention anything about seeing her, getting back together with her, or any desire to do either. I did ask if she was engaged because her boyfriend asked a friend of mine to be in his wedding, but I did so in a plain, non-inflamatory way. My questions are: She goes out of her way to maintain contact with my friends (people she only knows through me) and employees; but wants to cut ALL contact to me. I have a theory on this, but what's your take? Does she truly never want to speak to me again, or is this pressure from her boyfriend? I have quite a bit of her stuff (most of it is sentimental, or important); plus her pet snake. She says that it's a loss and I should just throw it all away. Is she serious, or is she just hurt and acting childish? Given the fact that we were involved in each other's lives for so long, I'd at least like to maintain contact. I don't need to speak to her, but every few months or so, it'd be nice to know what was going on in her life. Any hope of this in the future, or did I make her truly hate and resent me for eternity?