ex is making me feel guilty!! why give her a chance??

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  1. quamen

    quamen New Member

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    My theory is that if a girl ever cheats on me, i wont take her back. My ex cheated on me and i dumped her right after i found out. I didnt take her back, even though most guys would. Some of my friends think im crazy not to take her back, becauase of her model type looks,but that doesnt cut it for me. Anyways, she keeps calling me and leaving messages like just saying she wants to be friends and nothing more etc.She is making me feel guilty that im not even giving her chance to be my frined and nothing more. She lied to me all the time, cheated on me, made fun of my 6" dick saying it wasnt big enough while comparing it to her ex bf's porno cock. I dont hold grudges, but why should i even bother talking to somone like this who hurt me?
     
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    She is not worth your time. Someone who had so little respect for you and your feelings does not deserve respect/"a chance" from you. Model looks or not this bitch has some serious fucking self esteem issues if she a: needs to make you feel like shit and b: needs your approval even after treating you like that.
    Good for you for not taking her back. It shows you are strong and independent, something she will never be.
     
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    you're only questioning it because she is still in your life. You need to block her number or something. Cut off all contact. She sounds like a bitch. You owe her nothing.
     
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    agreed, cut her off. tell her directly that she isn't worth your time, because she isn't.
     
  5. HuskiRuski

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    if all she did was cheat on you once, then i would have considered taking her back or at least being friends.

    but since she sounds like an all around bitch that always treated you badly, there is no reason for you to ever have her in your life; it's not like you two got along very well. all she would be is a negative influence over you. get rid of her.
     
  6. quamen

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    i think she only cheated once,but im not sure. As for being mean, yes she was in a sarcastic way. She was never outright mean, but saying things that werent called for even if they were in a joking matter.
     
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    you said she lied to you all the time. while that's not out-right cheating, it's what i was alluding to.
     
  8. Skeletor

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    dude stay strong and keep her cut off.... FUCK that bitch.
     
  9. MattThom01

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    You need better friends. Those are perfectly valid reasons to dump and stay away from a girl.
     
  10. quamen

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    yeah ur right, she did lie all the time.She wasnt a very good one,because everytime i caught her, it was so easy to do so. It was such a headache dealing with, im glad that shit is in the past.
     
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    exactly. so back to what i said: if you guys didn't really have any problems besides her cheating on you one time, then you should consider having her back in your life in one for m or another.

    but since the relationship was bad to begin with and she isn't trustworthy enough to in one, there's no point of having her in your life. she'll only tease you with her good looks and add stress to your life.
     
  12. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    We pursue that which retreats from us.

    We've talked about this before.

    The more you reject her and have nothing to do with her, the more she is going to chase you.

    If you want her to leave you alone, be really nice and accomodating to her and she will be gone before you know it :)

    Nothing spikes a woman's interest level quite like refusing to have anything to do with her.
     
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    Seriously, tell her she wasn't even worth the loose pussy she once gave you and tell her to stop calling you.
     
  14. quamen

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    okay, maybe by email is a better way. I really dont want to talk to her
     
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    Cut off ALL contact.
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Why are you still talking to this girl? Block her # if she won't stop calling.
     
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    you are doing the right thing by nipping it in the bud and never talking to her again.

    your friends will realize this soon enough. just ignore them.
     
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    If she is sincerely apologizing to you for hurting you and you guys click on any level which makes you want to be her friend than thats one thing, but if your feeling guilty? and you guys don't really have anything in common, then WAKE THE FUCK UP! tell her to back the fuck off
     
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    Sounds like my ex (really hot and seriously fucking insecure/immature).
     
  20. quamen

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    no i guess we really dont have much in common at all, and i dont care about her. Its best if i just stay away from her and dont contact her. She is 20 years old so she knew what she was doing. I think it is more of the fact that she usually is never denied. This time im denying her, where most guys would prolly take her back because of her looks and like to fuck her,but i have pride for myself that i can do better than that
     
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    LIke most said I would stop all contact.

    Change phone numbers and email addy
     
  22. Toda Party

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    Why even waste the time and bother having contact with her? Tell her to stop calling and completely ignore her.
     
  23. Bruticus

    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    Why would you want to be friends with a cheater and a liar? If you do contact her (I'd just ignore her), tell her that and hang up.
     
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    Never speak to her again? :dunno:

    Or, next time she calls, just explain to her how she's the scum of the earth and you never want to hear from her again.
     
  25. Yail Bloor

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    I agree.

    As mentioned above, she is going to continue to chase him if he continues to blow her off.

    So if he actually wants her to leave him alone, all he has to do is kiss her ass for a week or so.
     

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