Sooooo, huuuuge self-esteem booster when the girl that dumps you comes back a couple weeks later telling you how stupid she was, and how she wants you back. Long story, get a nice comfy chair. We dated for two and a half years. We lost our virginities to each other. First relationship for either of us. Started in high school, so yes, we're young. I went to Taiwan for six weeks. I met a lovely girl there, we hung out a lot, were really close, did not go past first base with her, did not tell my gf. (This is my guilt statement.) I'm back in the states. While I was gone, she'd picked up a MUD, and was very active with it. It seems like she was chatting with some guy from it, they were getting engaged in game, cool, I trust her, no big deal. But I gradually become exposed to how much she really talks to this guy. But it's all online, no problem right? She develops feelings for him. I'm pretty pissed, tell her to break it off, she doesn't, so I dump her, telling her about the girl in Taiwan while I'm at it . A week after, I'm sick of having lost my other half, so I ask her out. She misses me, so we're back. Big mistake. I insist that she stop talking to this guy, he's only online, so she can cut off contact easy, yes? But she has this whole bit about it not being fair to him, and how she doesn't want to hurt either of us. After a few weeks of ups and downs, she dumps me. Facebook (omg, are you serious) says she's in a "complicated relationship" with that guy some nine hours later (turns out he insisted on it). At this point, I think it's over. I cry over the weekend, feel crappy for a nice while, tons of support from my friends. I'm moving on. Sent her a ton of emo, "Why did you do this?" messages, she pretty much says "I'm sorry." to all of them. Fine, I'm done with this, time to move on. I don't have any contact with her for a week. One week later, she sends a "My turn" message, finally telling me about her side of things, how she feels crappy and wants me back, and has realized how important I am to her. But she feels like she needs so time off, to sort some things out, but would still like to see me. We've been hanging out... practically acting like we're together, told the guy she's not interested anymore, but... I don't know. Forgive and forget, right? I feel like we should work things out, but damn am I bitter about that guy, who was only online. I'm leaning in the "let her win you back" direction, but there's always the "she did it once..." which is countered by "and she learned not to do it again!" But... I'm interested to see what you guys have to say about this, personal experiences, advice, etc. Me being me, I probably will end up ignoring the advice, but maybe some of it will get through to me. Thanks.