The past two months, my girlfriend had been deployed to the Middle East due to her being in the Air Guard. We talked on the phone quite frequently, and she returned a couple weeks ago. We had been going out for two years, so needless to say, we were and still are, close. We had our share of problems, but she left on a great note and returned on a great note. We go out to dinner to start off St Patty's Day, and she said she feels like we were too distant now. Now I'm not concerned with her cheating on me, there was enough trust there to rule that out. As much as I hated to admit it, she was right. I spent the whole time until yesterday trying to rekindle what we had. Needless to say, it didnt work, and she said she needed a break to find herself and I needed a break to do the same. It sucked, but she was right and we agreed that we could stay in contact. Now I know she said break, but let's face it. Break is just break up without the "up". We had movie plans today, which I had no problem keeping. Granted it hurts, but the awkwardness is actually quite low. The problem was that she called me five times today about mundane shit. (Needed to know how to spell a word, if I knew how to get to this insurance place, telling me about her dad, etc.) I like talking to her, but the problem is that it's starting to sink in now, and every time she calls, it's a reminder that we aren't together anymore. We went to dinner and then the movie (Wild Hogs, it was quite funny) and things went well. She wanted to go to Reign Over Me tomorrow, which I told her I'd have to think about. I don't understand what she's trying to do. It almost feels like she wants me to have all the responsibilities of a boyfriend but none of the benefits. I know we will eventually come to be good friends, but I don't know if I can take that right now. She wants time to herself, and she's not taking it. What should I say to her? Has anyone else experienced something like this?