It happens to you. Each day I realize more and more just how deeply, tragically, and seriously some of the issues we discuss hit us. When we give advice, and talk the talk with allot of members here, it's impossible for most of us to fully grasp the severity with which the seeker is suffering. So many issues from alcoholism, drug abuse, relationship problems, to depression seem so far away for many of us [except those of us who have been there] - and giving advice or insight has become almost mind numbing for me. With that said, I'd like to stay alive to the feelings I have with each problem you face, and with each answer I give, so I'm writing you all this post. I feel like an asshole pouring out all sorts of well reasoned, yet emotionally vapid responses here. Everything I say sounds sugary sweet, and is consumed quickly if not though sometimes with difficulty by most of you - but the truth is, many of the things I say are only a tiny insignificant fraction of the real support and the real work that members like each of you has to go through during your experiences, growth, and recovery. Some of you need exceptionally deep sexual abuse therapy. Some of you need AA meetings. Some of you need a friend for a moment, and some of you need a shoulder to cry on for months. I want to remind many of you that while I haven't experienced everything you all individually have, and sometimes my responses are cold and rather logical - the experiences and pain we suffer often can't be described, nor can a simple answer like those I give really heal you or help you to entirely face the challenges you each must face. It is your courage, and your willingness to face your past experiences, and possibly your fears of future turmoil's that brings about the changes you get from any single thing I've ever said, and even then - your work never ends when my posts do. Don't be afraid to follow your doctors insight, or to seek counseling, or to go to a support group, or join a religious or spiritual group of your choosing and commit to your mental, physical, or spiritual health. Don't be afraid to call 1-800 numbers or the police if someone you love is being abused by a spouse, family member, or anyone. Don't be afraid to reach out if you're suicidal - call the hotline, call any of us here with a PM. Don't be afraid to invest months and years into working to heal the damage done by years of abuse, whether physical or sexual - whether you were raped by your father, or date raped on your college campus. Nothing any of you could say here would ever solve any of the problems I'm facing or have faced - so why should it be any different for you! The work I do here is just a gateway, a helpful nudge of the directions you all have already determined to go with or without me. Work hard, invest in yourselves. Even with the insignificance of my effort, you know I care about each of you. Care about yourselves that way too, and don't be afraid to go the distance to heal with the help of a specialist if you need one, or the shoulder of a good friend. We're here, but you're the ammunition.