Discussion in 'On Topic' started by unorthadox, Jul 17, 2007.
this is tearing me up.
what can i do.
Apologize... and hope it's enough.
The real question is, even if you could take it back...in the same situation, would you do it again?
///M, probally not.
i have a bad habit of trying to be funny.. and just working too hard.
Penny, it's one of those things you can't apologize for.
fairly certain i just blew it big time with her.
guess i'll just go do something nice for someone. blah!
it's life, or maybe your stupidity... but i would have to know what you said to advice you better on this one. believe me, i'm a genius at these things
Well since you said you can't apologize you can improve yourself.
I believe everyone says things like this from time to time. I certainly do but I've spent a lot of time analyzing why I say those kinds of things and I know my triggers now. I know why I said what I said or what I was feeling at the time or the idea I was trying to convey and why I couldn't just be more direct....or less direct as the case may be. So now, I'm more likely to recognize when I'm about to say something I'll regret later and usually able to stop myself beforehand.
So you can use this feeling of guilt, remorse, shame or whatever to motivate you to discover why you said what you said. Perhaps you'll learn something about yourself in the process, which is always good.
However, to err is human. Don't beat yourself up for just being human.
Well then, learn from it. You know you did it, and chances are, it's not the first time.
Stop allowing yourself to thinly disguise barbed statements with humor, and life should be ok.
So true... Just try again next time.
Tomorrow is a new day...
yeah...i told him he was cold and heartless
i didn't mean it...i was just angry....
but oh well...life goes on
Nope never in my life have I ever regretted anything I have done or ever will do. I live and make mistakes and learn from them. I don't regret anything I've done it was all done to make me who I am today.
i've never said anything i wish i could take back
maybe cause i always tend to think before i talk or simply for the fact that what i say is what i mean. I'm usually a frank person. and if i say something that i thought may be inappropriate or wrong...oh well, life goes on. I'm not gonna dwell on it. And if i have to I'll talk to the person(s) about it, but i'm not gonna wish i took it back
i second your notion
Dwelling on it is one thing, you have to learn to forgive yourself but regreting you did it in the first place is another.
Have you ever appologised to someone?
I've apologized for things when due like if i accidently bump into someone or things of that nature
and i have said things like: "I apologize if I make you feel that way"; and i then proceed to tell them my thought process
doesn't mean i regret what i said
I find it hard to believe you haven't done or said anything you wish you hadn't or handled differently.
You don't have to have an ill intention to create a situation you would regret. You're human, situations like that happen naturally regardless what your intentions are because you have emotions and they cloud your judgement. To not think that sounds very much like living in denial.
I hear what you're saying and how you can think as such.
But I think in a much different light than other people and interpret things differently. But no I'm not living in denial, I'm living in the real world
There are plenty of situations I would have handled differently if I had the luxury of really thinking about it and knowing what I know now, back then.
But I didn't have either of those things, so every situation you've had was handled as best as you knew how to at the time - so every subsequent situation became easier and handled better because of all the past decisions.
Each F up you make is just a learning experience and makes it better the next time. We're not born with a ton of experience, so we have to have some for ourselves before we can do things "right."
Just apologize, learn from it, and move on....there's nothing to gain from beating yourself up over it.
If anyone is interested....an article on apologizing
care to state a reason, or your just jealous I don't give a fuck about life?
Is that a cry for help?
And you are well aware of the reason.
you lost me