ever just feel "blah" after your gf or wife just babbles too much..

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  1. esandes

    esandes New Member

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    ..and doesn't put out? then she asks "what's wrong?"

    :hs:

    man it's frustrating.

    last night i just felt completely neutral, indifferent and emotionally drained because she just talks about shit that turns me off and avoids my "needs".

    how do i get my mojo back after getting slapped around like this? :wtc:
     
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    donkey punch? :dunno:
     
  3. esandes

    esandes New Member

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    :io:
     
  4. Cerridwen

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    So you don't want to fulfill her "needs" by listening to her yet you still want her to fulfill your needs by giving you some? It's a two way street there ;)
     
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    Agreed.
     
  6. Apothis

    Apothis New Member

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    Last night I was accused of ignoring my gf. I really wasn't, I just didn't hear her well enough to know she was talking to me. But whatever. I usually pay enough attention, ..and get enough back.
     
  7. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    If I'm into my gf, I'm never accused of paying too little attention. Some men would say this is how you kill a relationship. Mysteriously, my last gf, who I was into, lost interest in me.
     
  8. lauren

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    fulfill her emotional needs, she'll fulfill your sexual needs. :hsughno:
     
  9. Sionell89

    Sionell89 I grew up when I wasn't looking

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    Grow up. Start thinking with the big head instead of the little one.

    Or realize you don't need a girlfriend, you need a fuck buddy or a really well paying job to pay for a steady stream of prostitutes to suck you off on demand.
     
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    Funny, my g/f loves that part about me. How I listen and whatnot, that is one of the characteristics I have that made her decide to be with me was worth it. We talk everyday. I ALWAYS ask how her day is. I know she needs someone to talk to, and as her best friend, I think I should take on the role.

    If you don't like talking to her, and expect to "get some" everytime, you are probably making the wrong decision by investing that much time in her. As Sionell said, you need a fuck buddy. BTW, my PM box is empty now Sionell, sorry!
     
  11. antihero

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    from the sound of it, he didnt want to, but did anyway :dunno:
     
  12. Cerridwen

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    I absolutely love this about my husband as well. Every night he comes home and asks me how my day was and truly listens to me (and I do the same for him). I am happy that he truly cares about my day and is willing to listen to me.

    There's a difference between listening while essentially tuning the person out and truly listening.
     
  13. lauren

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    yeh, uh, i can usually tell the difference, and my actions will reflect that, consciously or not. :hsugh:
     
  14. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    Slip some ruffies in her drink. j/k

    It's true that often when you put the woman's needs first you get your needs met. Not a guarantee but it works very often.
     
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    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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  16. Socrates

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    I used to make the mistake of not listening to my girlfriend. As a Marine, whenever you talk, you just get to the point and say what needs to be said. Beating around the bush is wasting time. A while back, my girlfriend would be telling me how her day was and giving me every little detail, talking about every customer she dealt with at work. I would just get to the point of saying "Holy fuck, I asked how your day was. Not the biographies on everyone you interacted with today." and the only good that would do was set the mood bad and ruin my night.

    I'm not going to sit here and lie saying I enjoy hearing every detail about everything, because it sucks. But now, whenever she tells me that stuff, I listen and give input on what she says. Unless i'm watching TV, then I just say things like "Oh really?" "That's cool" "That sounds like fun" every 15 seconds or so :bigthumb: .
     
  17. Ded Guy Walkin

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    ahhh, good ole screen saver mode. :big grin: I do it too
     
  18. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    be a challenge

    don't spend all your time with her

    be busy - have her fit into your schedule instead of the opposite

    poke fun at her in a humorous way

    don't make yourself available to her all the time
     
  19. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    yeah, especially if the chick has A.D.D. and knows an ephemeral, flighty approximation of love.
     

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