FRK Ever have your SO blackmail you?

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  1. LEFTY02

    LEFTY02 New Member

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    with telling your friends or family about FS you do in the bedroom?

    mine did the other day, shes supposed to be quitting smoking and we were at a friends house (who smoke) and she asked my buddy for a cigarette. i told him dont give it to her cuz shes trying to quit. she got all pissed and whispered in my ear. "I'll tell him (insert FS here) if i cant have one"
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    that pissed me off, im sure she wouldnt have but thats not something you do to someone you love :nono:
     
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    DaTaSPiKe Active Member

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    hahaha... that could actually almost lead to some FS in itself.

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    But I totally understand where you are coming from. It was wrong for her to threaten you. But the question that you have to ask yourself, is do you think she would seriously say something? If so then, that should lead to some very serious conversations.
     
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    What hell No!!! Thats pretty fucked up, I'm trying to get my SO to stop smokiing but he'll never hold anything against me
     
  4. LEFTY02

    LEFTY02 New Member

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    no i dont think she would, but it still pissed me off cuz id never do anything like that to her.
     
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    :hug: That is messed up.

    I am very open about my freakiness, so even if aphoric did say something, people would probably know already.:rofl: Or they just wouldn't be surprised.

    I am sure it didn't have anything to do with you. She just wanted a cig
     
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    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    YOu guys need to have a serious talk about that, not an arguement but a serious ADULT talk about it. She can't be playing the child like that and possibly exposing things you don't want or need exposed just because she has no god damned will power.. She can't be playing blackmail with your sexual endeavours.
     
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    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    Also, if she DOES say that again just turn it around on her and be like "well you're the SLUT that participates in it WITH ME, so you're just as much of a fuck up."


    seriously, she's being a brat and should be put in her place ;)
     
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    wannaseemysocks I Have Big Socks...

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    i agree...try that
     
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    I would never ever do that.... Though if he did something very very VERY awful -after- we broke up, i might consider threatening it, but i'd never actually do it. The good thing is, he has just as much shit on me as I do on him, so theres no point in blackmailing... b/c he could do it right back at me.

    good luck with your situation!
     
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    TigreTek omega member OT Supporter

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    in all honesty, that's just as pathetic as actually carrying through with it.
     
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    Cyndia New Member

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    like i said, its only if he did something very awful to me, like cheat on me with my best friend or something worse.
     
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    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    If she was serious there are some major problems you need to sort out. Serious talk asap.
     
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    deviant rest your trigger on my finger

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    dot. if you two are in a serious relationship you had better get that squared away, or i could definitely see it leading to future problems :hs:
     
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    deviant rest your trigger on my finger

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    :werd:
     
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    Lovely Atlantis Luscious Lovely Lady!

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    lol when we were dating my hubby used to tease that he would tell people about my bisexual experiences. And he did tell a few, but they didn't believe him! I had my innocent girl act so down that everyone thought that he was full of shit. :p
     
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    Lol, I Hated It!!!
     
  17. Trina

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    Your first problem was telling your friend not to give her a ciggy. When she is ready to quit smoking for good, if ever, then she'll quit. It has to be on her terms and in her own time with no one else dictating to her as to when or where to quit. Believe me, I know this from experience.

    Now, keeping that in mind, take into account her threat with the denial of nicotine (which is just as addictive as heroin and ciggies are an even worse habit to break because it's legal) and you will totally understand where she was coming from.

    It's like trying to deny a woman her snacks during THAT time of the month. AIN'T happening!
     
  18. TigreTek

    TigreTek omega member OT Supporter

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    please don't make excuses for her. nothing can justify such a puerile violation of trust/intimacy in a relationship.

    i realize that i'm making an assumption here, but i'd imagine that she asked for his help in quitting, and he was facilitating that.
     
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    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    More and more, i realize that people that lack will power piss me off.
     
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    TigreTek omega member OT Supporter

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    i'm using big people words today. :noes:
     
  21. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    it's the drugs....
     
  22. LEFTY02

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    theres more to it than just wanting her to quit. ive got some lung problems and she cant smoke around me, so it gets annoying having to wait for her to finish.
    before this gets into another subject about being controlling...im not. i dont care if she smokes, its her body. but she made the decision it was bad for her to smoke if shes gonna be with me. so i was just trying to help.
     
  23. LEFTY02

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    exactly
     
  24. TigreTek

    TigreTek omega member OT Supporter

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    i'm not on them yet...
     
  25. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    oh, well then.
     

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