SRS Ever get passion for something so much it affects your personal life?

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  1. Ancoats

    Ancoats New Member

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    :x: Just feel like a bit of a ramble.

    Basically, for seven years my whole life has been dominated by football (soccer) and a football team in particular (Man City). I have not missed a single game for seven seasons and most of my friends are the same way. I still love football and get stupidly worked up about everything involving the team - from City forums, to getting the paper every morning and setting aside a few hundred dollars per month to finance the away games - I would guess that I spend around $5,000 a year on following Man City up and down the country.

    Man City have always affected my relationships with women, and I have based my friends around who I support. I don't allow Man United fans into my flat and on nights out all me and my friends do, and talk about is Manchester City and chant various songs - sounds ridiculous when you put it down in wording but in England alot of people are the same way and when I meet new people the first thing I ask them is not thier name, but which team they support. The people that I respect are people who have not missed a game for years and years and I have an irrational hatred of people who switch teams because of varying degrees of success. I know I have a problem but I can honestly say hand on heart that without this passion in life I wouldn't be the person I am now.

    So lately I've been trying to get a girlfriend, a steady one. I have lots of one or two week things but they all peter out when they discover that I am an asshole when it comes to football. This weekend I nearly ended up fighting with a friend over the fixture list. I knew we had Olympiakos at home in a friendly, yet my friend was saying this was bull and we ended up in an intense argument about it that threatened to spoil the night out. With girls I find that although Ive reached the age where I've really got to start settling down - and I do want to, I just can't commit due to the fear of missing a game. Say if my girlfriend wanted a weekend away and that clashed with a game I would work around the games. Alot of potential girlfriends have got pissed at that and ended the relationship before it develops into anything serious.

    I'm kind of stuck in a rut here. With every month that pases I find myself wanting a steady girlfriend and a house to call my own with a few kids running around, yet on the other hand to do this I know I'd have to sacrifice or at least compromise on going to games. When you've been to every game everywhere for seven years it becomes normal to shape your weekend around the game and getting out of this routine is hard.

    Silly passion in life I know, so have you guys got anything similiar which takes over your life in a big way?
     
  2. AmCo

    AmCo Haters goin' Hate

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    isnt there a movie about this? with jimmy fall./drew berrymore? about baseball?
     
  3. Bleed

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    I played soccer (football for you wankers :) ) since I was 5. i played 1 season pro when i turned 22 and decided i had enough. now i go on occassion to watch my friends play in the MLS here in the states. my suggestion to you would be to try other activities that don't involve soccer. i started snowboarding a lot more in the winter and during the summer i surf, play golf, and play tons of guitar now. when i watch soccer it's maybe once a month or so now. it seems like man city is your life and this will lead to 2 things with your goals that you have in mind. you either need to meet someone who shares the same passion as you do (which my opinion is going to be fairly difficult) or you need to just relax a bit and become more open minded about sports. but be yourself. if man city is your passion, find a woman who will accept this and still be willing to be with you. just dont start fights when people disagree abotu your team.

    if your chick wants to go away, how about scheduling it with an away game to spain, italy, etc. while you are at the game, send her to a spa so she can get some relaxing treatment. then you can hagn out again after you are both done. then you're happy since you watched city play and she is happy since she was pampered for about 3-4 hours. you dont need to sacrifice all of your happiness but find ways to make it work.

    by the way, manchester united was my favorite team as a kid....but God damn, the US needs more hardcore soccer fans like you. 7 years....amazing. :o
     
  4. PaZzEsCo

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    I don't think you should have to give up your passion for a girl. I am also a huge soccer fan and I don't think I could be with a guy who wouldn't want to go to MLS games with me or wasn't a soccer fan. I think it's great that you have so much passion for one team that you travel to away games to watch them play.
    You just need to find a girl that understands all of this. I'm sure if you want to go on trips together I don't think she'd have a problem going around Manchesters schedule. As a girl, I would just be happy to get away with my guy I wouldn't care that we had to go at a certain time because the week before he had a game to travel to.
    Good luck with finding a girl!!
     
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    Which was based on a book about soccer.
     
  6. chica&buddies

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    i honestly didn't think this was possible, as one of my turn-ons about the opposite sex was passion. i've been clearly proved wrong, but such is life. ;)

    in my own case, tho... i honestly think there's a line between too much work and no play. :dunno: i'm all about sacrifices. if someone means a lot to me, i'll sacrifice other things to give more time to that person. it goes for other things, too. i'm a school nerd, and i often sacrifice a week of sleep in order to get awesome grades. :dunno: too each their own.

    i would NEVER tell anyone i cared about to give up their passion in life for me (or some other girl). that's crazy! i know i certainly wouldn't do it if the roles were reversed.

    i will give ya a few pieces of advice, tho. for starters, if you have a busy schedule, let the girl know this from the beginning. many guys aren't honest enough to tell the girl how they really feel, so knowing that you're not just evading because you have no interest is important (if you mean it!). ;) the next, i'm sure you guessed it, is honesty. i can't TELL you how important that is. be honest about everything, even if you're not really a feeling oriented person. and last, try HARD not to cancel plans. :(

    that's all for now :o
     
  7. Darketernal

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    Seeing where you come from, and honestly we all know Manchester United to be a fantastic soccer/football breeding zone if you like. And i must admit the whole mania can even be passed down from generation to generation, i myself was influenced by this game as a whole myself too. The thought occured strange to me ,when i started realising that , there is a field with a bunch of millionaires, running after a ball :rolleyes: lol. One half goes to the other side, and the other half goes to the other side of the field, in some way its absolutely rediculous but in the end ITS ONLY A GAME.

    You don't judge a person on wether they like/dislike Manchester United or not, you don't condemn people. Just for the sake of the argument, most girls don't care and don't even like to watch soccer/football games, but hey its great you got your own thing and have the freedom to experience all the excitement there is in that club,social thing of yours. Now place yourself in someone elses shoes, and imagine how someone could also have a great passion for boats, and couldn't care less about football, as you could care less about boats.

    You have to understand DEEPLY IN YOUR HEART, that you have to respect another persons passion about 'something completely different' and you should give someone the same freedom and respect, as the other people are giving to you for experiencing your joy with your football club. Now imagine your dad saying 'im denying you to go to the football game tonight' , you would be angry/devestated/paralyzed. Now imagine when your cousin likes basketball more then anything, and you say 'you can't play basketball, football is much better and you should be playing that' ,

    What i am saying here is that you are trying to shovle your opinion forcefully into another persons shoes. RESPECT. You voice your opinion, but don't push it. Say something like, i don't agree on that , but oh ok have it your way then , i still think this and that is going to happen but i won't say any more about it. Then that's just more then enough in voicing your opinion and be done with it. Its not worth fighting for, remember in the end no one like's a hooligan :squint:
     
  8. Ancoats

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    Yes the original one is based around a book by Nick Hornby who is a 'Arsenal obsessive' - which I call into question because he never does many away games and went to watch Cambridge United when at University there. Little things like that which make me question his true passion.

    Pre-season its fine because there is no football on so I can take chicks on holiday and that, and plus Man City don't play in Europe often which my wallet is happy about. :big grin: I have no problem with spending Sundays with my girl and that its just if they arrange something for a Saturday when Man City are away I will do anything to weasel out of it and go to the game. I once faked going to the hospital to go to Aston Villa a few seasons back and got busted because I was standing right behind the goal and the TV screens caught me bouncing about celebrating a goal.

    I do respect thier passions, trouble is alot of them don't respect mine because they see it as a pointless exercise. Alot of blokes when I mention I havent missed a game in 7 years give me huge respect, but alot of girls are like :wtf:
     
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    next time when i'm in europe you need to take me to a game :bowdown: :bowdown: :bowdown: :bowdown: :bowdown: :bowdown:
     
  10. Darketernal

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    They did a survey once on how much girls care about footbal/soccer , the typical men type of sports.

    The outcome was that they prefer seeing more horses on t.v (lol) , and talking shows , and they care not that much, there even was a survey on what girls should not say/do to a guy about football/soccer ,

    - it's only a game.
    - standing in front of the television during the t.v
    - accidently cheer for the other team when a goal is made against your team.

    There where some more but i can't remember lol.
     
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    Hmm.. This reminds me of something. OH YES! My ex who couldn't give up playing Counter Strike for long enough to talk to me.

    Notice I said ex...

    Look-- It's okay to like something and enjoy doing it. But when it takes away your chances of having a family and a wife one day-- Don't you think that's a bit overkill? Involve your girl in your interest... Interest, not obsession. Get TiVo! It records your shows while you're away... On dates. Having dinner. Then sex. Yes?! Sex. O.O... If that doesn't wake him up, nothing will.
     
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    Sure thing.

    Sadly this isn't the only time I've done something like this. In the past three years since starting full time employment I have:

    - Walked out of a job because they wanted me in the morning of an away game to Southampton, even though I had re-arranged shifts in order to enable me to go.

    - Worked overnight many times so I could go early to localised weekday evening games the next day.

    - Been knocked back for a potential website design job for a group of schools because I have a football related conviction, which is bs because in the UK you can have a fight outside a pub/club and get released with a minor fine, but do it outside a football stadium and the full force of the law comes down on you.

    - And even now I've just booked a few days off so I can make the first batch of away friendlies and league away games. And I'm currently working out if I can manage a 3/4 day trip to Thailand to see City play in 2 days.

    But sure, come to England and I'll take you to a game. We go very early, drink loads, chant loads and have a great time. :big grin: Even talking about what we do gives me anticipication like you wouldnt believe.
     
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    :rofl: Yeah I remember an ex years back who 'supported' both Man United and Arsenal which I couldn't understand and kept making snidey comments about. Her whole family was Man United to the bone and in the end grew sick of me, especially when I turned up drunk to thier house after we had beaten them 3-1 and gave them a personal rendition of our Gary Neville is a Blue chant. :big grin:
     

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