ever fell for a smart girl/guy?

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  1. glass

    glass New Member

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    i'm a guy so for any girls just reading this just plug "guy", "he", "his", etc in.

    i'm not really talking book smarts or "knowledgable". i mean more like top 0.01% in the intelligence department. the kind of cookie that can do a crossword puzzle in her head or out-chess Bobby Fisher.

    it seems impossible to have a conversation with her. you try to tell a joke, she can usually guess the punchline.. you make a witty comment and either the impact on her was so dull or she saw it coming a mile away. you get the feeling that everything you say is just some version of something she's already heard.

    the topics she thinks about or brings up seem kinda abstract to you. the saying comes to mind: "Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people"; and you realize that maybe even on the "ideas" level there are many sublevels, and you're not sitting very high.

    the problem is this difference doesn't seem to be something you can make up for with effort. is it?

    well.. not that it helps; if you can make yourself dearer to her by trying, you realize that someone on the same intellectual level is probably still gonna be dearer trying by the same amount. maybe you'd have to possess a quality that can't be easily replicated (which is what raw intelligence is anyway), like good looks or an awesome sex drive. or a 6 figure salary. but that seems kind of shallow doesn't it..?

    is a girl much smarter than you just something you should try to forget about?
     
  2. huntz0r

    huntz0r New Member

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    I dunno... it seems like a nice problem to have in a way. Much better than a girl who's an absolute moron. On the other hand, if it's really that big of a disparity, where you can't even relate to each other, that might be a fatal problem.

    I think the answer depends on a number of things - whether you can relate decently, poorly, or practically not at all; whether she likes you despite your differences (perceived or real) or looks down on you in some way; whether you truly can "forget about" it or if it gives you a persistent feeling of inferiority, which is really not something you should be trying to live with long-term.
     
  3. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    I've gone out with men who were the nicest guys but had the IQ of a fence post. I found it frustrating having to explain what every second word I said meant. I have dated super intelligent guys, (academics) who were so foscused on their particular area of discipline to the point where it became bloody boring (How much does one want to know about Molecular Pharmacology or foreign policies?). I dated a surgeon for awhile and he gave me minute details of removing a gall bladder. I've dated a chess champ and felt like I was just a game to him. I never thought of these men as superior to me in any way, just focused. Finding common ground was difficult with them, but it was found.One either "connects" or doens't. It's as simple as that.
     
  4. purplebeast

    purplebeast The depths of hell and endless torture await all h

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    I never met anyone that I would consider smarter than me. Perhaps I have considered them more acomplished, wordly, focused or with more knowledge in a particular area, but not necessarely smarter than me. Execept for one girl, I think she was a bit smarter than me. She was just happy to hook up with someone that could pretty much see eye to eye with ( we often discussed how much both of us had suffered in relationships because the average person dumb as a brick). As long as both of you are somewhat in the vecinity smarts wise, I dont see why you should have any issues.
     
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    zysus New Member

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    Don't mistake smart for classy. A person who is both will be able to interact with you in a way that makes you comfortable, not a manner which is condescending. Someone who is smart but not classy is a pain in the ass.

    And yes I dated a 'smart' girl once. She went off to Yale. I kept up fine. But she had a superiority complex about it. I don't. Needless to say... it didn't last.
     
  6. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    I wouldn't want to date someone who was like you described. I would just always feel like a complete idiot around them. I also don't want to date someone who is so dense that you have to explain every single thing to them either. I'd prefer someone who is somewhere in the middle. They are smart but know that there are still lots of things they have to learn.
     
  7. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    :werd: I like the idea that I can teach a girl some things, and she can teach me some things. Having that ability to know you both have common ground, in addition to some other specialties, makes for the ideal relationship, in my eyes. :x:
     
  8. chica&buddies

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    wow... well said... :bigthumb:

    i've always dated guys that were smarter than me, but in different areas. heh, i'd say 99.9% of them have been car nerds and computer geeks. they're all incredibly hot because of their knowledge, imo. i love learning new things, and i melt when i hear "smart" talk. :drool: :drool: :drool:

    i'm currently interested (& pursuing? :dunno: ) a science nerd, which is new for me. ;) it's cool cause we can talk about science shit, and he understands everything i'm talking about. that's HUGE with me. don't get me wrong, i don't care if a guy understands what i'm talking about, but listening is extremely important in my book. and well, it's hard to want to listen, if you don't understand what someone's talking about. i pretty much eat, sleep, and drink science, and it's a lot of who i am. the other guys didn't compare in that regard... :sad2:

    anywho, i understand how you can feel. i sometimes think my guy acts the same way, though he says all the time that i'm smart. [:eek3: the more classes i take, the dumber i feel :o] heh, anyways... don't let her get to you! if you learn one key here, it's that no one knows EVERYTHING about EVERYTHING. certainly there are areas you could school her in, and vice versa. :o i just hope you haven't got a girl who's too proud and stuck up for her own good.

    good luck! :) don't let her get to you! everyone's smart, in their own way.
     

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