ever been confounded by a first date?

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  1. Mopar03

    Mopar03 73-9 OT Supporter

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    this was with a girl who I've known for quite some time, but hadn't seen in almost two years. conversation went very smoothly, no awkward silences. she was the one to initiate kino, and there was quite a bit of it. upon departure, I got a hug and she even suggested we should hang out again. seemed like things went very well. we were both fairly busy though (her starting a new job that week, me starting school again), so I got a message a week later thanking me for taking her out. I send her one the next day suggesting we hang out again soon. it's been over a week and no reply. just not that interested? I'm simply confused because everything seemed to go great, and she was the one to say we should hang out again :sad2:
     
  2. KindlyCuddly

    KindlyCuddly Irina Lazareanu

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    have you tried calling her? she may be waiting for you to set up something.
     
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    Mopar03 73-9 OT Supporter

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    well, other than one call, we had all previously been communicating via facebook. when she sent that message thanking me, she also mentioned that she was excited she just got internet access setup at her new place. so that sorta made me think she preferred to communicate that way :dunno:
     
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    Mopar03 73-9 OT Supporter

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    I've only sent her that one. I may try once more (or give her a call) later this week if I don't get a response by then :dunno:
     
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    I agree with the responses

    it sounds from, your post, that she did show genuine interest
     
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    plan date

    invite her on date

    "hang out" is too vague
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Are you really putting the future of your relationship with this girl on facebook? If you want results, call her and be direct.
     
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    I've noticed a trend in the girls I've talked to/dated that they like to communicate via the internet/texts initially because it relieves them of the pressure and nervousness, but in time they most definately want phone/face time.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    :werd: It's an easy way to 'meet' people, but once you've got a connection the interwebz can get in the way.
     
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    you're probably over over analyzing it
     
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    Mopar03 73-9 OT Supporter

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    general consensus seems to suggest I should call :o
     
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    Mopar03 73-9 OT Supporter

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    how so? I'm simply trying to figure out if I should try and contact her once more, or just ignore and move on :dunno:
     
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    sounds like she had fun, but in a "friends only" kind of way. You don't hug at the end of a good first date, you kiss.

    Sorry man, just reads like she isn't that much into you.
     
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    that's not ALWAYS true.

    I didn't kiss my ex-wife until our third date.
     
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    Zee916 Engineering the world.......

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    Facebook is gonna be the death of the world. I cannot stand how many people use that shit like it's life or death.
     
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    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    Fixed for those of us who actually talk to girls in real life
     
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    actually, her making the effort to even tell him she had a good time means its more than just friends

    kissing or not kissing on a first date doesnt mean anything.

    TS, i think you should call her and set up another date
     
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    She said she wanted to hang out again and you never made contact with her. You waited a week for her to text you and say "thanks for taking me out." She probably thinks you have no interest in her since you took zero initiative in contacting her. Pick up the fucking phone and give her a time date and place and take her out.
     
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    :rofl:
     
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    :rofl: true
     
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    Was there the past couple weeks. We met at a friend's house, texted in the morning a bit with the usual "good meeting you, let's hang out", she said we definitely needed to. Called her a few days later, set up a date. Went out and had basically the same type of date with her that you had with your girl. No akward silences, all laughs, all talking, all smiles. After dinner, walked up and down the beach talking more. She initiated the kissing.

    Texted her and there, then we went out again before I left for back home. She seemed happy, but a bit more closed off. Sent her a text the next day. She was moving back up north a bit for college, which I had known. She said with her moving back, she didn't want to get serious since there was such a short time to really see if something could develop. I told her I had no intentions of really starting anything serious, but rather just hang out and get to know each other, keep the option of visiting open if there was time for it during the semester. She came back saying "Yeah, I completely agree. I like that. However, I don't see much chemistry between us."

    I just left it at that. Her loss. It was confusing considering how the two dates went (I legitly have never gone on one before where there wasn't some first or second nervousness or akwardness), but oh well, her loss.
     
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    Mopar03 73-9 OT Supporter

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    alright I'll call. if she doesn't answer and I don't get a call back, I'm done with her :o
     
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    If you want to try one more time, try one more time. Don't expect results and you'll either get what you expect or be pleasantly surprised (odds are on the former).

    This happens to everybody, maybe you misjudged, maybe she is uninterested but flirty, maybe she is interested but flaky, maybe it's just crossed wires. At this point is where I would tend to just try stuff, remaining uninvested but trying to at least learn something. If nothing comes of it, you just learned what not to do. BFD.

    The only mistake you can make is to waste a non-trivial chunk of your time and/or money, which a phone call is not.
     
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    Mopar03 73-9 OT Supporter

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    well fuck, her facebook status says that she lost her phone, so no call :ugh:. dunno if I should send one more message or fuck it
     

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