even bother with girls who may have a kid?

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  1. quamen

    quamen New Member

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    Today i went to visit my mom at a local gym she goes to in the morning to drop something off. As im there and about to leave, she introduces me to a girl who works there who is pretty attractive. We start talking for a few mintues, and then i just ended it cause i had some work I had to do. My mom comes home and says that girl is interested in going out sometime, but then i find out she is 23 which is good, but has a kid who is a couple years old.

    My gut is just telling me not to even get started as friends, dating or anything cause of the kid situation. Im 23 also, but i just wanted a second opinion on dating girls with kids?
     
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    Hotrodheb New Member

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    What the hell, instant family!

    But really, don't let her having a kid keep you from getting to know her. It's not like she is 23 with a 10 year old son!
     
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    hell if you can live with the fact that the kid's father will bump in from time to time for a visit, I don't see the problem. Perhaps you both can share bedroom secrets lol.

    On the upside, if you're looking to settle down, she's probably on the same page.
     
  4. Dont let the fact that she has a kid stop you from being her friend. Get to know her, but dont get involved with her unless your thinking something serious.
     
  5. NJGuy

    NJGuy "Fuckmefuckmefuckmefuckmef uckmefuckmefuckmefuckm OT Supporter

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    Nope... I did that before.
    I will never do it again! :nono:


    Unless the girl is so utterly fantastic that I can not control myself. :bowdown:


    But since there is only one girl in the world like that... I can honestly say it will never happen again.



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  7. Coco Monkey

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    i wouldnt see a MAJOR problem with it.

    i havent done it myself mind you, but if i had to, to pursue a potential relationship, then i would do it.

    i say go for it, cause honestly, what do you have to lose??? :dunno:
     
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    It wouldn't affect my decision at all, if I liked her I'd see where it was gonna go.
     
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    first, check to see her story of how she become a single mother...

    thats a start. til then, strictly friends.
     
  10. Cerridwen

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    If you already have issues with her having a child, it's probably best not to get involved. If you do, take things SLOW!
     
  11. SeaMack99

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    If you have to think twice or have any second guesses about the child dont do it.
     
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    ok what about a guy that has kids, I'm a single father of a kick ass little 4 y/o boy. Ladies, would you get involved with a single father or am I screwed ?
     
  13. Fase

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    Never get with a chick with bagage
     
  14. giapia

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    for some reason, guys with babies are almost utterly difficult to walk away from
     
  15. BATMANs

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    Male lions don't have a problem with that................ they just kill the cubs and the lioness goes into heat.

    No really.... I saw this on the animal planet.
     
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    I don't think you should let it change things. I have dated women with kids. Now adays it seems to be there will be a decent chance a girl may have kids. You just have to approach it a little different. Talk to her a little and see what she is looking for. You don't have to be a instant father or anything like that. You also have to accept the fact that she can't just go out at the drop of a hat. It is a different style of dating but nothing wrong with it. Just do what feels right
     
  17. nope. My boyfriend has a son.
     
  18. DarthKoRn

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    3rd'ed.
     
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  20. Reign

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    I just got out of a relationship (not my choice) with a girl with a one year old son. ANd you know, as great as the kid is you have to realize, you and your relationship with her will never come first; that the kid will and always will be what's most important to her. That when you're sitting there cuddling on the couch and the kid cries... she's gonna have to get up. That you'll need to find a baby sitter when ever you wanna go out. That you'll need to undoubtedly have to deal with the grandma/mother alot more than you really should. That not only do you have to care about one person, but two people because if you don't give a shit about that kid, it'll never work out. That you'll undoubtedly have to practically give up drinking and drugs are a huge NO too. That, you really can't do alot of the things you like like fool around when ever you want and be all touchy feely around the kid. It's tought, real tough, probably the hardest realtionship I've ever had.

    She's still the only girl I've ever told I loved though.
     
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    [HRT]Squirrel Master New Member

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    at least you know that they put out?

    ok Im going to hell for that one....
     
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    :rofl: but yeah you are :wavey:
     
  23. quamen

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    wow thanks for all the mixed replies, really helped me out. Im still trying to decide, this can be a hard one.
     
  24. purplebeast

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    Done it once. Never again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    A kid puts a horrible cramp in your sex life
    You have to deal with the ex
    Chances are she will always be broke or tight for money (unless she is a professional)
    You will always be second in her heart
    Its a PITA having to find a baby sitter if you want to do something "adult"
    Its a PITA having to do a buch of kid related stuff
    Single moms ALWAYS, ALWAYS hope you can be a replacement daddy
    Its hard to break up because you get attached to the kid and the mom
    Before you know it, you'll have to come to bat and talk "man" stuff with the kid (if its a boy)
    Single moms dont wanna have an array of guys coming in and out. They want stability
    Single moms barely have time to spend with you. Kids take up a ton of time
    Kids are VERY annoying if they are not yours
    Kids tear shit up at your place. Because most bachelor's pads are not kid proof and have a TON of stuff that can be kncoked over because THE BACHELOR PAD IS NOT INTENDED FOR KIDS
    Its more expensive to date single moms. If you all go out, you have to pay for 3 people. You have to buy the brat a B-day and X-mas gift. Plus the ocassional toy or candy to win the kid over.
    Its nearly impossible to get away for a weekend.
    Chances are you'll also have to deal with her mom. Unless the chick makes good bread. She will more likely have someone staying with her to help with the kid
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    And one last thing

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    edit; To be fair. When you do have sex , s AWSOME. Because its hard to get time alone, she flavors everyscond of it. She will also treat you right because she knows its important to keep you VERY happy, since you have to deal with all the extra bagage. I still love a girl thats a single mom. But undoubtedly that moment will come. Where you'll have to man up and be part of the family for good. Or she will move on to greener pastures hoping to find the guy that will play daddy to her kid. In my case. i had to let her go. It was not fair to me to have an insta-family at 23. The kid was her mistake, not mine.
     
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  25. Reign

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    Pretty much what he and I said. Unless I could get her back, I'd never do it again. If they still live with there parents, make the sex thing 100x worse.
     

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