Hey all , just want to get some input on something that happened last week.. Now before i get into it , i do take responsibility for my actions, and don't agree that everything i did was right.. it got downright dangerous , and that shouldn't have happened. i know what i did wrong, just trying to see if anyone knows why it escalated like this ?? OK , so basically me and the GF have been fighting almost non-stop for the past few weeks . To give a lil back story to it ( and yes i know everyone has said leave and all that many times.. don't need to hear it again) Money is generally the problem and that spills over into other things. Also she has again gotten close to her girlfriends , and now every Friday night has been girls night , which i generally don't have a problem with once in a while.. but as of this Friday its been 11 straight weeks . usually leaving me stuck home watching her kids. I would like to go out with her, or alone , but with the money issues, it just is not feasable . She always tells me that her friends pay for everything and she doesnt spend a dollar ( not sure i totally believe that) So as for last Monday , i called the electric company to get a payment arrangement set-up ( because she wasn't working , i couldn't pay all the bills on my own, and they were gonna shut us off) i went and set it up , with a 55 dollar payment due in 2 weeks , and we'd be ok. called and let her know it was all set , and she flipped out , saying she just paid 56 dollars 3 weeks ago.. this escalates out of control.. she comes home shortly after, screaming at me the whole ride home on the phone , then soon as she walked in . im like forget this. i have been busting my ass all day , and i come home to this 10 mins after i get out?? This is what the electric company wants.. deal with it , or deal with no lights. she tries to blame it all on me saying i didn't call when she made the initial arrangement , and its my fault .. then tells her daughter ( 5 years old) to her face.. that I'd rather mommy paid the bills, than got her school supplies (which this has nothing to do with , the bill aren't getting paid , because she wasn't working , and i cant pay it all on my salary) At that point i was done.. your not going to disrespect me , and teach your kids to do the same.. its just not right. So i walk out the door.. hop in my car and proceed to back into the driveway to turn around . At this point she comes out.. with her 2 kids watching from the porch . and puts her foot under my tire as i go to leave, stopping me.. i just said.. let me go and cool off. but she now wants to use my car to go shopping ( her car that i got her under my name and credit was repo'd 3 weeks ago , because she didn't pay it, now she has a beater that isn't registered) I just wanted to cool off.. it was getting way to heated and there was no need for it.. she wasn't gonna move though.. eggin me on to hurt her in front of her kids.. stuff like that.. so i backed up a bit more.. cut the wheel hard away from her , and tried to go around her (slowly, like 2-3 mph).. now here is where things got fuzzy for me , with all the emotion and adrenaline going , i tried to go.. she says i still clipped her foot ( not like im trying to hurt her , i was trying to get away) at which point she screamed at me.. and smashed my driver side view mirror off the car... and i just hit the gas and wanted to get away from the situation.. when i hit the gas.. it being a rock-covered driveway , they went flying all over , with her kids standing near all this , and i left in a cloud of tire smoke .. again i know its not ok to act that way.. esp when the whole friggn neighborhood heard and saw all of this.. my problem lies within why did she have to escalate it.. and then egg me on.. come on .. try to hurt me.. and this and that.. why bring it to that level, it doesnt prove anything.. and just made things so much worse.. for the time being im home at my parents.. she is still there.. not really talking much .. she said she was sorry for the mirror.. never went to the dr for the supposed foot injury. i told her i was sorry for any pain i may have caused , but she didn't have to stand there and try to block me, that doesn't prove anything. and that i was sorry if any of the rocks hit the kids.. it wasn't intentional , and they shouldn't have been there to begin with. none of it should have happened.. i just don't get it ??? she has tried this before... but never to this extreme.. i know when a fight is just getting out of hand , and i need to cool off ( and no for those who are thinking it , i have never laid a finger on her or anyone else) she has stood behind my car.. reached in and took my keys and threw them in the woods , and also done the foot under the tire thing before.. but not as extreme as this.. i am just at a total loss for it .. why did she have to escalate it to this level???