My fiancee and I have been going out for 5+ yrs, engaged for 1+ (we're both in our early 20s) but I don't know if it's going to work out. I made a very similar thread about 2 years ago, hoping stuff would get better, but it hasn't really... And I don't really see it changing in the near future. However, our lives are so intertwined I have no idea what to do. We've both taken care so much of each other (first gf/bf), and a big part of our lives have been dedicated to each other. We've lived together for +3yrs FYI. She'll be starting school (again) in September for 4 years, and I'll have to cover for her (my job is good enough so that wouldn't be a problem), and I couldn't live with myself hurting her emotionally and financially at what may be a turning point in her life. I've never been through a breakup, and neither has she, and I just can't see myself inflicting pain on someone who's loved me entirely for so long. Things aren't bad, per se... every aspect is sort of average. average sex, average fun, average motivation for anything, and lack of passion, etc... and she lacks the willpower to actually improve any of this. Basically mediocrity is enough for her, and that's what has been killing it for me over the last few years. I see our future as way too much of an average, boring couple with not that much passion (which pisses me off, because I try to treat every aspect of life with max passion). How much of a responsibility do I have, seeing as she's always been there for me, to try to make things work? I know the obvious answer is pretty much none, and it wouldn't make me a bad person, but I just can't come to terms with hurting her in any way. OT halp me with your words of wisdom.