Embarrassed as it is, please help.

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  1. jtizzl

    jtizzl New Member

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    Alright.. Heres the situation straight out.

    Its a sex problem.

    Im currently 19 years old and have been sexually active since I was 15. Everything was great, had a few partners and a damned good time. But, bout a year and a half ago I met my girlfriend (current since then).

    Here's the problem.
    When we first started dating, the sex was amazing, the relationship was amazing everything was good. I personally would go for usually 45 mins to an hour (Not saying thats alot, just some info. to hopefully further help my problem). As of about 4 months ago I did something I thought would never happen to me... I orgasmed in about 5 mins.. A lil' embarrassed I was, but my girl laughed about it and thought nothing of it.. So the day passes and as the new one arrives, we go at it again. Well, to my luck, same shit happened again.. Now Im thinking.. What the hell is going on. She got a little pissed but dusted it off.

    The following day she got her period so there was a 5 day time period before we got into it again. Well, sure nuff the very next time we laid, it happened again. To make a long story short, she refuses to sleep with me *for 3 months now* until "I get fixed".

    Ive asked a few close friends and a cousin, but they all said nothing. Im a little embarrassed to bring it up to my doctor (whose a family friend).. And I procrasinated long enough and I really need to get this fixed.

    Our relationship has been alot've arguements and complaints lately, and I know its cause shes sexually frustrated.

    Any advice will be greatly appreciated. If anyone has any personal experiences with this problem, you'd be the most help. Thanks in advance.


    PS: I havent tried Viagra or any male enhancements, however if someone is going to suggest that please let me know bout some precautions or effects I should know about.

    PSS: Ive tried to "rub one out" before sex.. But I still orgasm fastly.

    Again, thanks in advance.
     
  2. RockChick

    RockChick New Member

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    screw her if she cant deal with it... sorry but "refusing to sleep with you" doesnt help getting over this "problem". its pretty immature and puts alot of pressure on you.

    personally i dont mind if he gets off too fast... there are alot of ways to make it up. so how about you get her off before you guys have sex and if she still gets pissed... MOVE ON.
     
  3. jtizzl

    jtizzl New Member

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    I've fingered her and gave her oral dozens of times to try and hopefully "push" this situation... But, she refuses to give me anything in return.. She'll rub on me when Im fingering her, but after a few orgasms, she stops, smiles, then either goes to sleep or resume whatever we were doing 'post-fooling around'.
     
  4. RockChick

    RockChick New Member

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    screw her.

    or

    no more sex at all. no oral, no intercourse, nothing.
    jerk it off whenever you want but dont do anythng with or to her.
     
  5. lauren

    lauren Active Member

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    wow. selfishness on your gf part.

    could it be youve worked sex down to a science? like, in the begining its still new, and you dont know what buttons to push in whhat order so your pleasure takes longer, but now after this timeyou know excatly how to work it, so its satisfying faster?

    what about stoping, or pausing part way throuhg?

    and if she wont have sex with you....how does she know that problem isnt fixed? to get through this, you need to expiment with different techniques and whatnot, and unless its an opne relaionship...i think you need her.

    seriously. the more i think about this, it seems more to be a probllme with her shitty attitude then with you. is there more to the story?
     
  6. Wolf

    Wolf No one plans to take the path that brings you lowe

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    Tell her to fuck off and die.
     
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    JustaMeThang New Member

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    Have you recently started taking any drugs, do you smoke butts?

    Check out this link http://my.webmd.com/hw/mens_conditions/tv7762.asp?pagenumber=2

    But, Im inclined to say..before you ponder taking any kind of drug.....set your GF straight. I wouldnt want to have sex with someone who had that attitude, shit, Id want it to be over as quick as possible also(no pun intended but she isnt being sympothetic)...she isnt helping at all.
     
  8. Coco Monkey

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  9. maskednegator

    maskednegator Kosmonaut, best we've got...

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    dump the bitch.
     
  10. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    what a whore, tell her to go fuck a horse and stay away from you..
     
  11. YouDon'tKnowMe

    YouDon'tKnowMe New Member

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    Yeah, I agree with everyone here. You need to get rid of the girl. If she cared about you, she would work with you for this situation. Not leave you hanging to "fix the problem" within a time period. My bet is, she will try to get some before that, so deny her, infact deny her anything sexual. See how she feels.
     
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  13. okita1

    okita1 Great spirits have always encountered violent oppo

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    not saying make it work out with her, cause the girls a bitch
    but to help with your "problem" whats changed since this started?
     
  14. rkf76

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    so when you nut, sex is over? That's wrong. You guys gotta keep it going. Shit, I can be a minute man myself but that don't mean the show is over, hell,it's just getting started. Cause after that first one, it's on!
     
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    Take her to a cliff. . . . and help her have a closer look. :)
     
  16. jtizzl

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    See thats the thing... I have no problem going for ROunds 2 in 3 after a 5-10 min. recooperation, but after I cum she gets so pissed and what not, she kills the mood.

    As far as "trying new things", I thought of that when it first happened. So, I went at it differently, slower, easier, still nothing changed. I mean, I been active since I was 15... I didnt even bust this quick when I lost my virginity.

    I do smoke stoges, Newports. I been doing that since I was 16. I read that article, guess I'll just bite the bullet and put my BlueCross to use.



    - On a mental and more emotional note -

    Soon as I get "fixed".. Imma get the bitch all wet, stop and just walk out. Let her know what it feels like.

    Any more comments would be greatly appreciated.
     
  17. Drummin Jess

    Drummin Jess New Member

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    Does the orgasm still feel like an orgasm? Is it just as pleasurable? If so, then it shouldn't be that big of a problem. You still get what you should out of it. Your gf is selfish if she's just concerned about what she gets out of it. If I had a man, as long as he got off, I'd be happy. :dunno:
     
  18. jtizzl

    jtizzl New Member

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    Heh, then come to RI Jess! haha.

    As for it being pleasing.. It is somewhat.. Just that she bitches and I totally lose the "feeling" and just basically let it out and shower and thats it. =/

    I know I can keep going.. She just gets out of the mood quickly.
     
  19. rkf76

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    then if you're up for round 2 and she's bitching that you came too fast in round 1, fuck her! She's being stupid about it and isn't worth dealing with her bullshit in the long run. She's acting as if her attitude towards the situation has nothing to do with the outcome, which means she's totally oblivious so next time, bust one in her eye and tell her to kick rocks.
     
  20. TwistedMind

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    its been said 17 times already but, relationships arent always about what you get out of them. It sounds like you have the right attitude and shes the one with the problem. Every man has this problem at some point in there life. As long as im getting laid on a regular basis i can go 25-40 minutes. If I dont get any for a week or 2 im a 3-5 minute guy.

    You need to realize maybe shes the problem? Maybe its just the same shit everytime so your body is just trying to get you threw it faster, because it sure dosnt sound like you're haveing fun to me
     
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    Repost PENCIL DICK

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    Jesus christ she sounds like a bitch.
     
  22. jtizzl

    jtizzl New Member

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    I dont think any guy has fun in 2 mins =/.


    I just wanna get back to my normal "schedule" so I can dump this inconsiderate tramp.
     
  23. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    depends on whats going on a 2 min quicky CAN be alot of fun...

    More you think about it, more you worry about it, less chance it will happen. I highly doubt any doctor is going to actually medicate any problem. You will probably end up with some placebo pills if you go.
     
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    btw, id dump her first, then work on your problem.
     
  25. DarthKoRn

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    Your girlfriend is really selfish and lame.

    As for your problem, have you tried using a couple condoms? Or maybe numbing gel?
     

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