SRS Embarrassed as it is, just asking some guys for help.

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  1. jtizzl

    jtizzl New Member

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    Alright.. Heres the situation straight out.

    Its a sex problem.

    Im currently 19 years old and have been sexually active since I was 15. Everything was great, had a few partners and a damned good time. But, bout a year and a half ago I met my girlfriend (current since then).

    Here's the problem.
    When we first started dating, the sex was amazing, the relationship was amazing everything was good. I personally would go for usually 45 mins to an hour (Not saying thats alot, just some info. to hopefully further help my problem). As of about 4 months ago I did something I thought would never happen to me... I orgasmed in about 5 mins.. A lil' embarrassed I was, but my girl laughed about it and thought nothing of it.. So the day passes and as the new one arrives, we go at it again. Well, to my luck, same shit happened again.. Now Im thinking.. What the hell is going on. She got a little pissed but dusted it off.

    The following day she got her period so there was a 5 day time period before we got into it again. Well, sure nuff the very next time we laid, it happened again. To make a long story short, she refuses to sleep with me *for 3 months now* until "I get fixed".

    Ive asked a few close friends and a cousin, but they all said nothing. Im a little embarrassed to bring it up to my doctor (whose a family friend).. And I procrasinated long enough and I really need to get this fixed.

    Our relationship has been alot've arguements and complaints lately, and I know its cause shes sexually frustrated.

    Any advice will be greatly appreciated. If anyone has any personal experiences with this problem, you'd be the most help. Thanks in advance.


    PS: I havent tried Viagra or any male enhancements, however if someone is going to suggest that please let me know bout some precautions or effects I should know about.

    PSS: Ive tried to "rub one out" before sex.. But I still orgasm fastly.

    Again, thanks in advance.
     
  2. Achmiel

    Achmiel Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshi

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    Think about baseball? :dunno:

    I don't know why something like that would happen - maybe it's just all in your head, if you use the Viagra or whatever, sure you'll still be hard, but I don't think you're going to enjoy teh sex... I hope you get past this!!!!
     
  3. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    Maybe focus on foreplay (on her) more than you used to so at least she feels fulfilled.

    I don't know why you would all of a sudden start cumming quicker. Thought about premature ejaculation? Were you on any drugs back then? On any now?

    I think she isn't helping the situation by putting so much pressure on you to perform. There is more to sex then how quickly it takes the guy to come
     
  4. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    Well if you ejaculate 1 time, the second time is usually harder, so if you can do something like that unnoticed before you have intercourse then maby you'll last longer, or you could use special sedatives that remove some of the feeling and thus make you ejaculate later. Not that i heard positive things about that last method, but its very tricky bussiness.
     
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    ef New Member

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    he already mentioned in his post that he tried 'rubbing one out' beforehand..
     
  6. WhiskyDent

    WhiskyDent Je l'ai fait tout pour le lols

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    first off I think she's horrible to treat you like that. how would she feel if you told her to piss off until she "fixes herself" :ugh:

    I think you just need to do some mind over matter. I personally have never had this problem, but I know that with some concentration and taking some time to get in the groove you'll be fine.
     
  7. Peyomp

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    Okay, so its an immature relationship and all that.

    1) Consider getting her off before you ever penetrate her with your penos.

    2) Google: Kagel Exercises
     
  8. JordanClarkson

    JordanClarkson OT Supporter

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    Just keep going until you cum twice. Or 3 times even.
     
  9. JordanClarkson

    JordanClarkson OT Supporter

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    and try using thick condoms. works for me
     
  10. beanolo

    beanolo It does a body good!!!1

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    Viagra at 19? You'll have a raging boner for a week. Don't do it man.
     
  11. sourcandy

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    lmao.. sorry but that comment was funny

    As for the problem.. Try takn' a shot of liqour before you go at it.. works for me. That happens to me sometimes when I get really stressed.
     
  12. jtizzl

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    I'll try the liqour.. Never really got serious on Viagra.. And goddamn.. Condoms? Those things scare the shit outta my friend down low.. I'll try it though. Anyone elses comments would be greatly appreciated.
     
  13. civicmon

    civicmon got all my game from the streets of california.

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    if you can't trust your doc.... get another.

    There's a thing called patient/doc confidentality and what's said in that office can't go beyond there unless you consent (ie, to see a specalist for instance).

    he can't go braggin to your parents about your sexual issues. If he's really a friend, he would also follow common doctrine.

    if you're uncomfortable, that's one thing, but if it's because he'd spill the beans, that's another.
     
  14. Peyomp

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    http://www.askmen.com/love/love_tip_60/67_love_tip.html

    Its spelled Kegel. They will fix your problem in a few days.
     
  15. slims

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    Definately, Kegal ftw. Get good with them, and you can orgasm all you want and keep going like the energizer bunny. She'll probably die.
     
  16. RenaultFreak

    RenaultFreak OMG

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    I agree, it's no tlike you are sick or anything....maybe you are getting too excited about it and you know the drill...you just can't tell yourself "don't think about pink elephants..." (best description I can get from another OTer in a similar situation...)
     
  17. Wolf

    Wolf No one plans to take the path that brings you lowe

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