EDU: How to Provide Adequate Oral Loving to Your Man

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  1. 123yenxtc

    123yenxtc New Member

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    A few people have asked about this. I posted it last year, but I didn't find it anywhere. I hope it helps. Anyone who has anything to add, please do so. I always want to learn how to improve a technique! It was written for a friend of mine, a bonafide 40 year old virgin, in an e-mail.


    For a circumcised guy: (Edit 1&2: Also applies to uncut guys, but we're exploring the differences in this thread as well.)

    For the first time, it may be easiest if he is standing and you are either kneeling or sitting in front of him. You can use both of your hands this way. First, just look at it, see which way it bends – most guys lean left or right, and rarely are they straight on. I HATE people who close their eyes because of fear or insecurity or what have you. Confidence, girl! A clean cock and balls will smell kind of like bread dough rising in the other room. Don’t grab it and try to pump it like a porn star. In fact, don’t do anything with his cock at first. Try starting with…

    Balls/Scrotum/Sack/Testicles. The skin is kind of rubbery when it’s contracted and because it’s a heat regulator, you’ll notice the skin is in constant motion – like a lava lamp. If you blow warm or cool air on the skin, you’ll see it come to life. This area is sensitive but often overlooked. Cup both of them in both of your palms and feel the weight in your hands. With balls still in your palms, use your fingertips (use fingernails LIGHTLY at first – you can add more pressure as things get interesting) and stroke his balls from where they attach to his body in a forward motion, like motioning someone to come to you, with both hands simultaneously. Stay on the surface of the skin, don't try to rub anything deeper than that. It's just surface stimulation you're trying to create. If he’s in a relaxed state, and if it isn’t cold, his balls may rest low on his body and the skin may feel smoother. Side note: as he gets close to cumming, his balls may retract up a bit. Keep stroking his balls and move slowly up to the base of his shaft, where his balls and cock meet. Use which ever hand is more comfortable, but keep one palming and stroking his balls. With your free hand, slide it up his shaft until you get the head of his cock in your palm. Position your hand like you would a golf club, your thumb pointing to his pubes. Not a fist, exactly, but rest your thumb on the top of his cock’s glans (head), just under the corona and your fingertips underneath at the frenulum. The frenulum is similar to a clit in its sensitivity and shape. Now that you have the head in your hand, squeeze it in gentle pulses, similar to how a nurse inflates a blood pressure monitor (slowly and almost delicately). The purpose is to get a little blood flowing into the cock. Do this until his cock “jumps” automatically. Once it starts to twitch, it will start to harden. You can increase the duration and the pressure of your pulses at this point. Once his cock starts to firm up, you can take your other hand and wrap it around the shaft, squeezing it firmly. The base of a cock isn’t as sensitive as the head so you can use very tight pressure. Also, if he has any circulatory issues, holding the base of the cock will restrict blood flow and keep his erection hard longer. By now you should have a hard cock in your hands.

    ALWAYS KEEP HANDS INVOLVED and vary the pressure. Pornos where some chick covers her teeth with her lips and just bobs up and down on a cock is just for show. There’s not enough pressure to keep things interesting and you’ll probably just get tired.

    The mouth is important for two things: wetness and tongue. Don't cover your teeth with your lips - all that does is give you abrasions. Full lips around a cock is best and it's a no-brainer, but just don't involve your teeth. On your tongue, though I hate to say "drool," it's necessary to keep things slick. I’ll explain the “dry” job later – there is a way to give one without irritating or over stimulating sensitive tissues.

    Cock/Dick/Johnson/Penis: Now that it’s hard, or semi-hard, keep a firm-but-not-restrictive pressure around the shaft of the cock with one hand. Make sure you have a lot of drool in your mouth, in fact, kind of make a shallow spoon shape out of your tongue and let some spit pool in the cup of that “spoon.” Hold his cock in both of your hands, forming a tube, of sorts (like holding a baseball bat). Keep both hands together, as if they were one piece, on the shaft. It should be hard by now. With your mouth and all that drool on your tongue, part your lips wide enough to let the tip, roughly 1/4 of the head, enter your mouth and rest it on your tongue, bathing the tip with wet but don’t lick the head just yet. Once you’ve gotten an idea of the size of the head/shaft, while you are stroking his shaft with both hands, on the forward stroke, fuse your lips to the “c” shape of your hand closest to your mouth and with the backstroke, let about ½ of his cock into your mouth and with your tongue, press more wet onto the head. You should have one fluid motion of hand-hand-mouth working in synch. You can determine how far you can accommodate his cock. With each forward motion, keep the head/shaft wet and start to get it under your hands, coating his entire shaft with wet. The whole business about licking it like an ice cream cone is bullshit. Most people lick an ice cream with a pointed tongue. Pointed may be too much stimuli for such a sensitive area at first. With your tongue, press it FLATLY and wetly to the underside. In fact, briefly take your hands away and lick the “seam” that runs under his package from the base of his balls all the way to the tip of the frenulum. Keeping tongue flat, for variety, try making wet, circular motions with the flat of your tongue against the upside down “v” shape of the tip of his cock. You should be able to feel a pulse in his cock, it should be rigid, and it should be wet. Did I mention it needs to be wet?

    Just experiment with this for a short time, get used to it being in your mouth, relax your jaw and cheek muscles. Breathe through your nose. You may have to learn how to close a deep part of your throat so that you can accommodate a cock and breathe at the same time. It’s not hard, just takes some practice.

    For the most part, what separates a mediocre blow job from a great one is keeping a good tempo according to his excitement level, keeping the head and shaft wet, keeping the flat of your tongue pressing the head into your hard palate, and keeping the hand-hand-mouth as a single unit. Once you’ve got a rhythm down, you can vary pressure from light to heavy with your hands, tongue from flat to pointed, but when the head of his cock is in your mouth, wrap your lips around it to form suction. This keeps more blood restricted in the head and makes it very sensitive. Again, keep your lips pursed, like you were air-kissing someone and don’t fold them over your teeth (but don’t let teeth graze on his cock unless he wants it), Keep drooling, keep at least the head and first couple of inches of the shaft on your wet tongue at all times, let your tongue roll under and all around the areas it can reach, close and tighten your lips around the head/shaft, and keep a firm grip on his shaft with your hands.

    Listen to his breathing. When he sounds like he’s starting to hold his breath, relax all stimulation. Don’t stop. Just do everything lightly for maybe just under a minute – long enough to take the edge off an impending orgasm. The point is to build excitement to the point where if he doesn’t cum, he’ll feel like he’s surely going to die. Some moan, some make indecipherable guttural sounds, some make no sounds at all. Just pay attention to body language. You may feel his balls start to tighten up, his leg muscles go tonic, if he’s holding any part of your body with his hands you may feel fingers digging in. These are all signs of an approaching orgasm. Relax everything you are doing. You can keep this up for quite a while, but there’s a fine line between pleasure and pain that becomes evident. Too much stimulation and it’s just frustrating and he won’t be able to cum. For starters, I’d say keep the tension build up and back off about 3 times at first. After that third time, keep a steady rhythm of mouth sucking up to ½ of cock length (more if you can), wet inquisitive tongue lathering and drawing broad circles on any area it can reach, lips forming snug seal around shaft, both hands working in conjunction with mouth, even letting the hand closest to mouth roll over head on the forward stroke and then reverse stroke with mouth ending up over head. Keep your rhythm – don’t let him try to force you go to faster (unless he needs that kind of stimuli – if he does, he’ll let you know, trust me). There is nothing like the feeling of a man whose entire body is almost at the mercy of your capricious whims. When his body tenses up and every muscle goes rigid, there will be a split second of time lost, as if time has stood still. This is that moment when he “cums,” but there is a delay between the orgasm and the physical manifestations of cumming. Even if he’s loud, when that in-between second happens, there will be a noticeable silence or deep sucking in of breath before the wave crashes over him, flooding his entire body with oh-so-lovely endorphins.

    (The exception of using mouth with tongue only and no head movement is something I plan to test on an airplane soon so stay tuned.)

    This is the time where you will experience cum. Most guys aren’t gushers so you don’t really have to worry about drowning, but it can cause an unexpected moment of panic if you find something like a loogie suddenly spurted into your mouth. It doesn’t come out in one big shot. It shoots out in several bursts until it just dribbles a bit. Lighten up the hands around the shaft but “milk” his cock until you don’t have any more beads of cum appearing on the forward stroke. The taste is pretty benign, but it’s got kind of an acidic tang with a faint hint of bleach. Yeah, it doesn’t sound exactly appetizing, but it’s not foul by any stretch of the imagination.

    There are a couple of ways to handle this. First, you can swallow it. But if you really don’t want to swallow it but want to try it, when he cums, try to have as much of his cock in your mouth/throat as you can handle. That way most of it will get shot into the back of your throat and you can just swallow it without having too much aftertaste to contend with. If you are dead set against swallowing, but don’t want to look like an idiot by ducking as if you were dodging a bullet, just as he’s about to cum, move your mouth away but keep your wet hands still stroking the entire length of the cock shaft and over the head. When he shoots, most of it will just get on your hands. You can point it at your tits or face or wherever as well.

    Regarding spit versus swallow, I heard it said best when I read, “it’s like the difference between like and love.”

    Just some notes: Everyone’s cum tastes different, but you’ll be able to recognize there are always similarities. Pre cum can smell as funky as unwashed parts. You won’t go blind if you get shot in the eye. Above all, think of your own orgasms and how your body reacts. When you notice how similar boys and girls are when cumming, all of what I just described becomes second nature
     
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  2. R KriLLz

    R KriLLz Uncomfortable in my own skin.

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    my girl doesnt like giving head because she thinks (correctly) she isnt good at it.

    I dont wanna just hand this to her and be all "study up, see you tonight."

    what do ya'll suggest?

    It would be extremely hot for both of us i think if she could make me come from a bj.
     
  3. 123yenxtc

    123yenxtc New Member

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    If she's younger and a tad on the inexperienced side, she just might be experiencing some performance anxiety.

    When I was 19 I had never given anyone a bj before. In fact, coming from an excruciatingly religious and politcally conservative family, I didn't even know what "bj" meant. Fortunately, my bf, whom I was "living in sin" with, was older and simply asked me if I wanted to know what felt good to him. He started by just getting me acquainted with his cock. Prior to that, for me it was eyes closed and in the dark. This was in the late afternoon, full daylight, and he just showed me how to hold it and NOT BE AFRAID OF IT. All the handling made him hard and it was fascinating to see it go from flaccid to erect. We had regular sex that day, but the thought stayed with me and made me more curious and bolder.

    He explained that licking and keeping everything wet when I was doing it to him was best.

    Finally, he showed me that if I grasped it firmly around the base and used it as an extension of my mouth, keeping a rhythm like a well-lubed piston, that would be best.

    And he came. The angels sang, Jesus wept.

    Now, the spit versus dribble versus swallow part came later.
     
  4. 123yenxtc

    123yenxtc New Member

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    :eek3: Whoa. A sticky! Thanks! :bigthumb:
     
  5. Pringles

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    this works just the same for the uncut fellows too. Not sure why you mentioned that at the top...
     
  6. 123yenxtc

    123yenxtc New Member

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    It was written as an e-mail and I just cut and pasted without editing that part out. Yes, the same applies for the uncut guys. :wavey: All in all, Pringles, once you pop you just can't stop!
     
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    Be enthusiastic and it makes it so much better for both the giver and receiver. Stay relaxed. You will learn what works.
     
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    In for later
     
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    YES! I can't believe I forgot this very important part. Thanks for adding that!
     
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    Your welcome. I may add some more later if I stop being lazy.:mamoru:
     
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    Sephiroth13 Beginning of the End

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    :wavey:are you gonna add a tutorial for women for non-circumcised guys... because it requires a bit more care...'

    edit: nevermind I just read the other posts, its true, but some guys IMO are little more sensitive down there, I know I am... and get BJs have to be done very carefully in someways especially with the head and a lot more play with the glans. Now however, my girl has been using the bottom of her tongue instead and it work really well, not as ruff, but I think its just my sensitivity to it.
     
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    I think that because uncircumcised guys don't have the constant friction of clothing directly rubbing against them that, once the foreskin is retracted and the glans is exposed, the sensitivity would be more - at least initially - until the blood flows into the area and starts to harden everything up. Then I think that the sensation between cut and non cut are virtually indistinguishable. With that in mind, and I could be wrong, I would suggest that in the early stages of foreplay when foreskin is involved, to use less direct stimulation at first. You said your girlfriend uses the bottom of the tongue (I call it the "flat" of the tongue) and that would provide indirect touch versus a pointed tip of a tongue, which may be too much.

    Hmmm.

    Uncut guys: Please add your thoughts. Having more experience with circumcised rather than not, I would like to know what is pleasurable to you.
     
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    Sephiroth13 Beginning of the End

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    Actually i have to get really warmed up for any real tongue action can be had on the head and glans on the penis. Only when I totally ROCK HARD, is when she can lick the top of the penis with the tip of her tongue and what not... its just realy sensitive regardless.
     
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    123yenxtc New Member

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    There's a movement that seems to be getting stronger for parents to not circumcise their children and for men, if they were already cut, to use expanders to stretch the skin to reconstruct their foreskin.

    Are you glad your parents didn't snip you or have you ever even given any thought about it? I had a boyfriend who was from Louisville and had an emergency circumcision when he was going through puberty, so about 12 years old. Got his tonsils out the same time. He was traumatized for life. (Edit: typo)
     
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    Sephiroth13 Beginning of the End

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    Well I had been on the fence with it for a long time, But its what makes me unique. I would rather be unique than like everyone else. :wiggle:
     
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    i skimmed it, looks good.
     
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    I'm not sure if I have a preference. I've only had two boyfriends who were uncut and there didn't seem to be any (visual) difference except when they were soft. There are cultural and social reasons for cut versus not to cut. In the U.S., up through the 80s as far as I can tell, circumcision was considered routine surgery on newborn boys. Now it's an option that costs a couple hundred bucks more. I don't have children so I don't know how true that is.

    I know a few guys in their 30s that are on the fence thinking that the reason they don't get the women is because they aren't cut. The truth is, they don't get the ladies because they are boors. Glad you like it the way it is.

    Edit: I do remember one thing. A quickie hand job was "easier" with the uncut guys!
     
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    Thanks! Please feel free to add anything that you enjoy (or disagree with).
     
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    I have not read this all yet but the first thing I disagree with is where you said to use your finger nails on his balls. I think you should get the okay with him first. That is like saying its ok to use teeth on his penis. It should always be ok'ed before you try that type of thing. My boyfriend would not like my nails on his sack. I would think it would be very irritating and uncomfortable to many.
     
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    It said lightly. Obviously it is best if you know what does and does not work for someone.
     
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    Sephiroth13 Beginning of the End

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    :rofl:well that is true, but I'm indian so in my cultural its nearly unheard of to find Cut guys, so it wasn't something my parents really though about. So When growing i never did until I started to become sexually active. Where then it started to become a problem, but After some time I realized it really didn't matter, I could do some things that other guys couldn't do. My only problem was hand jobs and Oral Sex. hand jobs they just had to use the foreskin...and oral sex with me at least just had to wait a little to make sure I was hard as hell... usually doesn't take long tho :naughty::cool:
     
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    One of the most amazing boyfriends I had was Indian, specifically from Kerala. Interestingly, he was circumcised.

    I have a story about India. My old boss was a white guy and some leading authority on a specific type of Buddhism. He traveled throughout China, Burma, Tibet, and India. Whe he was in India he got sick and had to go to the doctor. The doctor asked him to drop trou. When he did, the doctor looked at his circumcised cock and said, "Oh, are you Jewish?"
     
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    Sephiroth13 Beginning of the End

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    Well circumcision does wary now a days when it comes to indians (not to back track on what I said)..I'm just saying with my parents it was unheard of, when I brought it up to my parents they said to me "why would you want that?" So in other words they didn't think about it.

    But Kerala has some strong British rootage back when india was taken over, so I wouldn't be surprised if that is a reason why he is circumcised...but I dont' know I'm just guessing now. Oh well, thats my take on it.

    However I do like the American girls, I'm born and Raised america.. I like to see it as, I have all the benefits of being indian but none of the bad things, Liek I dont' have the accent. :bigthumb:. So I'm happy about that. Anyway, more people shoudl get on the boat date Indian guys there are pretty cool peoples, for the most part, I know I am. :naughty:... Then again I'm a different breed of guy.. I fall in the Romantic's Field. Roses and Poetry and the such. :wiggle:
     
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    I know, I still disagree with lightly. I wouldn't recommend it until you have performed oral on that person a couple times.
     

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