LGBT Easy ways to come out?

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  1. Naturally Baked

    Naturally Baked Active Member

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    I dont wanna do it alone....my parents wont accept it, I dont know how to do it...letter? E-mail? I just dont know, I feel like I should be there but I dont wanna see my mom or dad cry because of me. They do too much for me and I hate the fact I have to disapoint them but I feel like its osmething I have to do.

    How?! I cant bring myself to just say "I AM GAY" to them
     
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    god now that im actually getting into being "gay" as in looking for a relationship its all just so new and I feel like my life is completely changing this year...Im nots ure if its time or not to come out, atleast to my fam
     
  3. I basically said "I am gay" when I came out and that's that. I was being asked why I was so depressed all the time and what was wrong, asking if I was doing drugs or something and I wanted to come out anyway so I just kind of blurted it out. :o

    There is no easy way. I would say DO NOT write a letter/e-mail though even if that would make it so much easier...you still have to talk to them face to face about it SOMETIME, that just delays it. Maybe write up a letter beforehand and then read it to them? That makes it easier to have your thoughts already collected and not get side tracked or not know what to say.

    I hope your coming out experience is a smooth one and that they don't take it too harshly.
     
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    Could u ever see yourself before you were out coming out? because right now I just cant imagine myself being out to my parents, but I want to come out to them...you know? Its really weird, like, if they were accpeting and interested in my life id have no problem talking to them about it but I feel like it wouldnt be like that
     
  5. No not at all. When I told my first friend, I was just thinking "wtf am I doing..." then after all was said and done I was glad I did. Especially my parents. I am a bad example of "normal" probably but I still am not at a point with my parents where they are accepting/interested in my gay life. My father is no longer in my life after my parents recently got divorced and I don't plan on talking to him for a while. I think I will give him one last chance to apologize/accept me around Christmas time.

    I hope that one day my mother is truly accepting of me and interested in who I'm dating and things like that. At least be normal enough where I can bring him home and not have it be weird.

    I do reccomend coming out though. That probably sounds obvious but in the long run you will have much more fun and be happier I believe. Even if your parents are not accepting at first, MOST parents come around eventually after they realize you are still their son and their flesh and blood.
     
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    i would suggest doing it in person.

    coming out to them face to face shows courage and independence which gives them more reason to respect you.
     
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    should I wait until after the holidays?
     
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    ok the thing about it is my mom is so uneducated about gays that it makes it incredibly awkward for me...she talks shit about my cousin like "do you think hes the guy or the girl in the relationship?" Im like "mom its not realy like that, gays dont sit down and say, do you wanna play the girl or should i?" and she honestly believes we do....she used to love ellen but when ellen came out she hated her and didnt watch her show, same with rosie. Then when rosie was on the view she watched her but then i heard her say she didnt like when she talks about her gay relationships....

    And they think me and my roommate are gay together. They always make fun of gays around me lately probably to see my reaction to it. They ask me if I think certain people are gay and do other shit...its just all so fucking awkward and im sick of it....they constantly tell me i need to go out with girls and stuff and I tell them Im not intersted in going out with girls right now lol
     
  9. Sounds like they already think you're gay. :o You should just tell them. Before/after Xmas is your choice.
     
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    same here :o I tell them I have too many problems, responsabilities, goals and priorities right now....I think thats the most subtle method of telling them :o
     
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    BTCollins I met a gypsy and she hipped me to some life game

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    Sounds like we are in the same position. My mom keeps bringing up awkward subjects that may or may not insinuate homosexuality, I too am torn how to tell her if she doesn't know already. Every party I come back from she asks if I found a girlfriend or not, the whole situation just feels awkward.
     
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    Well it seems a bit like they are baiting you, testing the waters, etc. Unfortunately I can't give any advice, i had it easy, my parents found porn and confronted me so all I had to do was confirm it and with friends I resorted to SMS and MSN. Don't know how our people made it by before technology.
     
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    geniks king of the hill

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    kiss a boy in front of them?
     
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    yep, every time I come home for the day from school they keep thinking I have a date. I went home saturday to do laundry and my moms like "why are you leaving? who's the girl?" im like "uh, im going home because my 360 is up there and I wanna play gears of war 2 :mamoru:" and shes like "oh sure, who is she?".....it just gets old.
     
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    parents are the hardest. whatever you do, you will feel like you are disappointing them because they aren't going to respond the way you want them to. Friends are easy - just drop subtle hints and then get obvious. im pretty sure my friends know im gay. typical aim convo with male friends:

    me: lulz, you got tina fey glasses
    him: do you like them
    him: haha
    me: yes, they make me want to do dirty things to you
    him: awkward
    me: HAWT
    him: wel i am going to play volleyball.
    me: k, im going to go fap to your glasses pic
    him: which is your favorite
    me: tell nick i said hay
    me: which what
    him: pic
    me: glasses are new... and now i can skeet on you without hurting your eyes...
    me: ill pic glasses for today
    him: haha
    him: ok
    him: talk to you later freak
    me: l8er bigger freak

    :mamoru:
     
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    elevator The tenants think it's wonderful! ヽ(´ OT Supporter

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    You, too, can graduate to speaking with your straight guy friends like this :eek3:

    We also grab each other's junk/butt and lick/bite each other on a regular basis. One of the guys is engaged, too :mamoru: It's hot. I thought I already told you this?
     
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    Last weekend I went to a wedding....boy that was awful the next day with the "all your friends are getting married, so when are you going to do it? do you have a gf? am I going to be a grandmother soon?" :ugh: :rofl:
     
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    this is what i did...grew some balls and just said it str8 forward..."mom im gay" worked for me :dunno:



    but on that note: i was trashed
     
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    It is hot to me :o straight guys that play gay is just too much fun :o
     
  21. pretty much. no easy way around it. "i am gay" has to come out some time. might as well cut to the chase. there is no "easy way" to tell your father and mother you are a cock sucker to put it lightly.
     
  22. :hs:

    that's why i'm glad i have a brother who so far, is straight and enjoys the vagina. so far we're the only ones in my direct family to move to America so it is up to him to fuck like a rabbit I guess and get everyone else moved on over. :mamoru: none of my relatives know i'm gay yet. :(
     
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    Yeah, same here. My grandparents are so religious and self-centered in their own way of old school thinking with no open-mind. I always remember hearing about how this person is "funny" as they would call it and it was like they just thought so less of them. Which is why I haven't told my people either.
     
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    I will never tell my grandmother... There is no point in upsetting her
     
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    dawt
     

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