SRS Dumped.

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  1. Pringles

    Pringles New Member

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    Well last night I got dumped by my first highschool girlfriend. I personally think we were on another level of relationship and I hope I dont get judged into the HS BF/GF b/c it lasted for 9 +/- months. Personally right now I feel like shit for posting this knowing that I have given up on myself and am on the internet asking for help, no offense to you generous people. I'm mentally a very strong person and I guess I have been broken.

    She claims that there was NOTHING wrong I did. She says that there is a problem with the way she lives life and she wants to fix it. I'm not really clear as I'm horrible with phones and cant really express my feelings or understand others with it, for the mean reason I cant see their body language or face. Could this really be possible that I did nothing wrong?

    I guess I came here looking for comfort,security,happiness in others because I no longer have it in the one I loved. I'm also looking for things I can do better next time( I realize I left this brief so dont be obligated to answer ). I'm also looking for the best way to move on to accepting that I'm back alone. It only reinforces in myself my motto of trust no one.

    She also threw down the I want to be friends. What could that mean... At the end of it all she said "I love you." That is what really threw me for a loop.

    Thanks OT! Any questons ask. :sadwavey:
     
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  2. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    You're in high school. That's not love, at least not the kind that matters. You shouldn't sweat it, honestly -- HS relationships rarely work out for the long run. There are millions of other girls out there, and you've got your whole life to find the one you're looking for (if you really want to find one).
     
  3. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Holy Doodle Blazin...it doesn't matter what kind of love it was ...Puppy Love, High School Love...love is love and getting dumped hurts. While I agree with you that high school stuff is dramatic and I am sure that eventually Pringles will find another person, it does not help the hurt now. The only thing that heals this type of thing is time.

    I have always wondered if ex's can be friends...I suppose it depends on the leftover feelings, the reason why the ex is an ex and the time frame.

    Love can be so wonderful, yet it can be so devestating.


    As I have stated before and I shall state it again, Cupid does not have a timetable.
     
  4. Pringles

    Pringles New Member

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    Thanks puppy cat. That is what I was looking for. I know your right Blazin guy, but to be told that just doesnt help.
     
  5. depressed

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    The advice I can give you now is although you feel horrible now, at least there will be no more wasted feelings going into a hopeless relationship. It will hurt less now, then if you invest another year or two.
     
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  6. Pringles

    Pringles New Member

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    well my queston still lies. Could there be really nothing I did wrong? Or should I ask her. I'm a moral person of imporvement. It gets to me strongly knowing that I'm not improving myself and i'm wondering if there could've been really nothing I did wrong.
     
  7. ebbnflo

    ebbnflo REAL- LAOT Hermit

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    Well, not knowing any of the details of your relationship, it's not really possible to say if you'd done something "wrong".

    I wouldn't ask her though. You are bound to get the same answer anyway (It's not you, it's me.)
    Seems like it's just because she is young and doesn't want to be in a "committed" relationship right now/anymore. It could be that she is interested in someone else. But, if she didn't say specifically, " I can't be with you anymore because I can't stand how you(fill in the blank)." Then it's not likely that there IS anything "wrong" that YOU did specifically.

    Just my opinion.
    I am sorry you are hurt, though. It will just take time, probably more time than you THINK, but you will get through it.
     
  8. Kytro

    Kytro I am become death, shatterer of worlds

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    It could be a number of things.

    1) Could be she really can't handle an intense relationship atm.
    2) Could be she likes someone else, but does not want to hurt you
    3) Could be she changed, and it no longer feels the same
    4) The "new realtionship" feeling may have wore off, and she felt she lost something and blamed herslef
    5) Maybe you changed somehow...
     
  9. Clarity

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    When girls say no they really mean YES!
     

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