don't want to break your heart...

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  1. evo-j

    evo-j New Member

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    so talking to this girl and she says that:hsughno:. not quite sure how to take it? i'm not pressuring her into anything, i've just told her that i like her a lot and would like to see if anything would develop. she says she likes me back but doesn't want to rush in anything..blah, blah, blah. i've told her i didn't want to rush into any type of relationship. The comment is just bouncing around in my head, not knowing what she meant by it.

    But i'm taking it like a way for her to get out, no?
     
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    vodkacollins New Member

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    she doesnt want anything serious
     
  3. Troy

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    I think your asumption is right, if she was really interested she wouldn't say that.
     
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    That is definitely how I'd take it... but my current gf said it early in our relationship, so I'd say if you're into her persist, but if you're not that into her she might be looking for an out.
     
  5. TheRemains

    TheRemains If I sound disrespectful, it's only because you're

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    my gf said this early in our relationship too. i said "ok, then lets just keep it casual." about two days after i said that she goes "remember how I said I didn't want a committed relationship? well, i lied."
     
  6. she may have said that when what she really meant was "I dont want to be heart broken".

    has she recently come out of a relationship or has she had a bad break up she is still hung up on?
     
  7. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    If you and I were talking and I said "I don't want to punch your teeth out" how would you interperet that?
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

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    Whether she has told you or not she most likely is:
    1. Coming off a long or bad relationship that she isn't over
    2. Is also interested in someone else

    Keep these things in mind otherwise you could get hurt.
     
  9. Horror

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    Pro-Tip: My ex said that to me right before we started to date. We went into it, 4 weeks into it she said she didn't know what she wanted - but I "convinced" her to stay. It was a great year, but right before out 1 year she ended it because she did not want to be in a serious relationship so young.

    So, if she's telling you that, find someone else.
     
  10. evo-j

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    yeah, she's been out of a relationship for about 6 months, but i have to do some digging around and see if there are still feelings and what not.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    In my experience "I don't want to break your heart" means "consider this your warning that I'm not ready for commitment".
     
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    I've learned to never push it when a girl says something like that. It's a real warning and it's not because she doesn't know what she wants. When a girl knows, she knows right away because she feels excited. If she says "I don't know" that means "I'm feeling meh about it".
     
  13. Falconer

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    low interest
     
  14. unless you are talking about loan %s
     
  15. Vysion

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    What was the context of her saying "I don't want to break your heart."?

    Were you 2 talking about a relationship? Who brought up the subject? Or was it something she just blurted out of the blue?
     
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    We were talking about us being together and a little more involved with each other. i told her i didn't want a serious relationship, cause i don't, but some where in between i wouldn't mind.
     
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    Well then why would she think she would break your heart if you don't want anything serious?
     
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    Doubt it. She would say "Let's just be friends" if she didn't want anything...
     
  19. Viper

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    It's the natural hoops that you gotta jump through in this country to move from "I barely know you" to "I love you".

    First there's the "Hey, you look good, wanna fuck?"

    Then there's the "Hey, that was a good fuck, let's do it again."

    Then there's the "Minus whale go to dinner and a movie and try to get to know each other."

    then there's the "Hey, I think I like you." repsonded to with a "Hey, don't get your hopes up (don't wanna break your heart) but I'm not looking for anything serious right now. Let's fuck again."

    Then there's the "OMG baby, you are tearing down my walls."

    Then FINALLY, you can be like "Hey, I love you" and she'll be like "Hell, you know what? Fuck it. I love you too."

    Love is such a beautiful thing.
     
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    At Dominoes?
     
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    pretty much my life story right here good job
     
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  23. evo-j

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    Yeah, i even said to her that if all she wanted was friends i was fine with that, i would just move on. she quickly jumped and said it was more, that was the whole confusing part and why the phrase stayed in my head. i have shown her that i like her and i'm into her but NO way said "marry me". she was the one cracking jokes about, "oh when we're married...." but joking around.
     
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    Thanks for everyone's input, we'll see what happens. I guess that is all we can do, i'll give it some more thought doing cardio tonight and hopefully drop it tomorrow morning.
     
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    Oh, she was testing you then to see what you would say in response. You passed because you were indifferent about it. Remain indifferent and chances are down the road she'll want more from you.
     

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