Don't know what to do about this girl

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  1. Chris90210

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    :confused: so last year i dated this girl off and on and nothing seemed to come from it so we both just went on with our lives. So last week i got a message from her (first time we talked in a year) just a convo start type message so i talk to her and she says she misses seeing me. I really do not know how to address this. I'm kinda in mixed emotions one being "why not :dunno: " and the other being ":nono: this is a waste of time" What would you guys do in this situation?
     
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    Before you got too worked up, find out what she means by "seeing you". She could just miss hanging out with you.
     
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    It seemed like when we were dating off and on "missing seeing you" was usually the start
     
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    rape/spit/kill :dunno:
     
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    :bigthumb: will do
     
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    Ignore her. If she really missed you, she would have said so a day after you split.

    She wants you to buy her dinner, pay for a movie, and then ditch you when you're out of money.

    :rofl:
     
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    Well not really i was always cheap:bigthumb: + my friend has problems with girls doing that crap so i know what to look for. From what i could tell the times we dated she could not get over some guy. so when i figured out that i was like "screw you guys i'm going home". If only i knew what is going on in her head................. (sorry i should have mentioned why we split in the first post)
     
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    You know what I mean - realistically she wants to test you to see if you are strong enough to NOT get back with her, and prove to her that you're a mature and desirable male. If you were to get back with her, then you would have failed the test and she'd dump you shortly thereafter.

    Nothing is going on in her head - women run on emotions, not logic, so stop trying to be logical. ;)
     
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    so hang with her but not jump into a relationship?
     
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    Well, I would personally not hang out with a woman as a friend, because some other single women might think (1) you have a crush on her (2) you're dating her (3) you're gay or (4) otherwise unavailable. Basically.

    If you're single, hang out with your guy friends, so when you do meet a single woman, she feels like you may be available to date.

    Alternately, it *can* be good to be seen with women, as it shows other women like you. Just don't make it appear that you're friendzoned. Make sure they are hot, you're flirting, joking, having a good time, and basically you're a stable but fun guy to be with.
     
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    I think what i will do is pretty much lay the load on her. Pretty much say give me a call if you want to do something and if she comes through i may go out with her once to see if shes going to do the same thing. If she is just scewing around then i have a girls I'm working on atm and i won't worry about it.
     
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    Tell her in a snooty voice "I don't call girls..."

    :hsugh:
     
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    I wouldn't "lay the load on her" so to speak. Just don't pick up the phone, kind of ignore her, stuff like that. She'll probably get the clue.

    If she doesn't, just tell her you're really busy with stuff all the time.

    Realistically, I'd just try to not talk to her at all.
     
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    i did talk to her for a bit to see what the deal was and i could tell it was the same shit different day.
     
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    #1 find out if she was drunk
     
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    :nono: You should read the thread and not just bash everything I say.
     
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    not bashing just curious didn't go any further than 1 phone call and a few text messages now i'm ignoring her
     
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    That's a good move. Make her wonder what happened to you, it's hypnotic.
     
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    if you have nothing else going on, why don't you just play it cool and see what happens? start out with small talk talk and see how she responds, if she seems interested, see if she wants to catch up sometime. if she left you a message like that, shes obviously thinking about you.
     
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    i already done that. When we started "catching up" i started to notice it would be the "same shit different day" so i now i'm not even curious so i won't bother talking to her.
     
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    IL+1 :ugh:
     
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    1 more quick question a fatty on myspace will be attending my college and she lives out of state so she was asking some questions about the college. Well not wanting to be a dick i responded to her questions well i get this earlier
    she is like fatty mcfat fat. how do i nicely say no or should i just use the "i have a gf atm" response?
     
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    There's always the "Thanks for the compliment, but i'm not really looking for anything at the moment" response.
     

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