background: grew up fat. 260lbs @ 5'11. Always intelligent, always made friends easily, great experiences in life, but just shrugged off relationships as something that wasn't an option for me. Ignored it, used food as a release from awkwardness or social insecurity I felt. Fast forward to freshman year of college I met a girl I really liked and she ended up telling me I was a great person but couldn't find me physically attractive. Fast forward even more and roughly a year and 8 months later I had lost 70 pounds and regained 20 of it in muscle. I'm currently 215 pounds and an active lifter and look great. In my mind I'm slowly realizing that my appearance is awesome and I'm an attractive individual, but I can't seem to understand how to go about experiencing or forcing myself to engage in dating and possibly relationships. I just seem to end up making great friends with girls... I understand this is hard to analyze and I don't even know why I'm writing this here, seeing as how I logically know I just need to put myself out there and express some confidence, but I don't know... just hoping someone has some insight to offer.