Done a complete 180 and ...

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  1. Foburous

    Foburous New Member

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    ... we'll see if the theory proves right.

    So the story goes something like this. In my late 20's, I really started to think that it was getting closer to the time I should be married. Hints included 75% of my friends getting married and I was still dating 21 year olds. Nothing serious, just casual stuff. The ones that I thought I'd be long term with never worked out just because we were in different stages of life. So I thought I'd switch it up and find someone a little closer to my age. The pickings were slimmer just because the people I'd find matchable were already taken and the rest were just not for me. Then when I found someone that I liked, the reason for rejection would boil down to the stability factor. Financial stability! During that time, I played poker for a living. Not on tv or anything, but just going to the casino playing 10/20 or 15/30 limit poker 4x a week. I was averaging $1500 a week in non-taxable cash. I lived a baller lifestyle. Bought what I wanted, when I wanted. I had the most flexible schedule of everyone I knew. I figured this would be the best scenario for a lot of women. Guy not only makes really good coin, but has more than enough time to spend with the girl. In that time span, I purchased a house and drove a nice car. I was a king to my guy friends, cool guy to the young girls but not even on the radar of any professional woman. So one day I decided to quit poker.

    Many reasons came to me as to why I should quit. Quitting while I'm ahead was a big reason. Quitting for the parents was another reason. They didn't really approve of what I had chosen to do for a living, even though I proved to them it was viable. Asian parents are either very PRO-gambling, or very ANTI-gambling. There's no in between. My parents were the latter. Plus they were ashamed to tell anyone who asked them what their son did for a living. Both my parents are professionals, and both their sons at the time were not following the mold. Older son gambles while the younger one (now 28) lives at home and is pretty dependent - but that's another post in itself. The last reason why I quit was so that I could attract that professional woman and show some "stability".

    So now I have this job working for the city as a building inspector. Nothing flashy, but it pays pretty well. Not even as close to as much as what I was making playing poker, but I can still pay the bills, but I can't do whatever, whenever anymore. I have a date tonight with this girl that pretty much told me that she wouldn't date me because I wasn't financially stable. I'll let you guys know what does or doesn't happen. Hope she likes dinner at chateau McDonalds. Anyone care to comment?
     
  2. Dahlia

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    Can' you play poker on the side to make extra money, and your main job you have as the main portion of your salary?

    Women want financial stability when they want to settle down...
     
  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Don't know what you are relly looking for her honestly :confused:

    You can still play poker here and there in your freetime you know...

    Oh, and in my personally opinion, I'd be turned off at the idea of dating a man whose "job" was playing online poker. Sorry :( While it might make you great money and you are good at it it still isn't technically "stable" and I dislike hardcore gambling anyhow. No matter what you say you could lose and lose bad at any time. And being "available" for women isn't necessarily what we want.
     
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    well, are you stable now?
     
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    The job is 9 to 5 one. My whole lifestyle has changed. When I'm done work, I still have other things to do like grocery shopping, going to the dry cleaners, making dinner and I play softball in 4x during the week. Occasionally I'll hit the gym, but even that is harder to get to just because I'm so wiped after working the whole day! I should also mention another reason why I wanted to quit the poker scene was to disassociate myself with a certain crowd. If I'm not there playing, I won't see them and suck myself into that lifestyle. Besides the only time I'd be able to play would be on the weekends, and I'd rather go out and enjoy the summer weather being from Toronto and all! But in response to your comment that women want financial stability when they want to settle down, why wouldn't me playing poker count? I consider myself pretty good at what I did and was consistent.
     
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    ^^ because playing poker could go bad one week and you could come home with nothing. its one thing to depend on something that can go both ways when you are single, but when you start a life with someone else its a little different

    my brother works a job where his salary is 100% based on commision. some months, he can bring in 30K, others, its 1K. i would never get into a serious relationship with someone with a job like that since you never know what the next month will or will not bring

    edit: but it sounds like you are financially stable now, so not sure what this girl is talking about then, unless she thinks you still play poker
     
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    I don't play online poker. I'd rather go and see people's faces, but that's beside the point. I don't consider poker gambling. It's not against the house - you play against other people. It's a skill game because one does not need the best hand to win the pot. You learn to read people which is a very useful tool even in the "real" working world. I treated it like a job. Win a certain amount, get up. Lose a certain amount, come back the next day. It's all about discipline. It's still like a job, because if I were bad at it, I would just quit. When I said available, I meant that in response to how some women say that in their busy lives, it's tough to date because of the scheduling. I offered flex time =)
     
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    I had saved up a lot of money over the years from my previous job and poker. From my winnings I maintained a bankroll for playing purposes. If I hit a certain number on the roll, I'd quit. I allocated percentages of each week's take to different things. Mortgage and bills, miscellaneous expenses and savings. I can't say that I win everytime, but when I lose, it's minimal. Does anyone believe in the "ride the train while it's hot" theory?
     
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    i dont think there is anything wrong with it, its just not the way i live. i like knowing every 2 weeks that i will get a paycheck for this exact amount i know i can count on. i would just be freaked out doing what you did, but if it worked for you, thats great. there have to be women out there who think opposite of me on this subject, so just find them. if a woman thinks you are not financially stable (especially this one right now....) just say next!
     
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    I'm all for gambling if you're winning, but, like everyone else said, I couldn't seriously get involved with someone who mad it his living.. :hs:
     
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    Even if he was good at it? Think about all those shoes he could buy you!
     
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    It sounds like you are living your life for what others want. Do what you want to do, not what you think will make you more attractive to women. You'll never be able to give women what they want. No matter how much money you make or what job you do.
     
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    i wouldn't of quit if i were you :o
    aside from the drinking/smoking aspect of casinos, sounds like a dream job.
     
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    I think this life is better for me. The whole women thing was a biproduct. I feel like I'm contributing something to society and I don't associate with certain people in that industry that really didn't help me grow. Seeing sunlight now is a big positive, even though it's through my window! There is the satisfaction of being able to do the 180 and do something that people didn't think I would / could do. In that respect I'm doing something new and that would be for myself.
     
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    Where were you 4 months ago?! Already quit and haven't played since. Still drink, but don't smoke... cigarettes anyway.
     
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    If she wont date you because she doesn't think you're financially stable enough then you don't want a shallow bitch like that anyways.
     
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    bimmer318 I'm out of applesauce

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    That's interesting... I'm doing building inspection as well but I had to go to school for it. Not sure how you were able to land that position.
     
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    yeh, but i don't like drug use. methinks there were other aspects of your life, and your lifestyle that gave off the unstable, nonquality vibe, and you're just being too shortsighted to acknowledge it....and chalking it all up to poker.
     
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    Personally i feel what you were doing was fine. and it seems you made the decision to quit with alot of thought. But as previously stated you seem to have done it for everyone else and not yourself. If this is what you want personally and not for someone else then i am with you. If your doing this to be "more apeeling" to women then you need to rethink your decision.

    And yes i do believe in "riding the train while it's hot". I think you bailed before it started to cool.
     
  20. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Probably the fact that he most likely spent most of his free time in some casino gambling :dunno:
     
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    i suppose the having too much fun and not having a balance of "work" / play could've been it... it's tough to sell the idea that when i was playing poker, i treated it like work... when most people would look at it as a recreational activity... so when my day would consist of playing poker and then hanging out with friends, it would just seem like a whole day of fun? does that make any sense?
     
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    if you loved poker, and it was your passion, AND you were making a killing off of it, why the hell would you change who you are to gain the acceptance of others? that's stupid. don't go from a baller lifestyle to work some boring lame 9-5. you shouldn't be ashamed of who you are.
     
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    wow... i only really spent time in the casino 4x a week and during regular working hours... so it was like a job... drive to and from work... 9 to 5? or 4 to 12 on days i worked the night shift... did i piss you off or something iwishyouwerebeer? it's like you've had it out for me since my first post...
     
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    on the topic of doing something for someone else, i thought i owed this to my parents... the whole time i was doing this, they didn't like it... but they didn't disown me or anything... if i had a problem, i could still go to them and ask them for help unconditionally... sometimes we do things to make others happy and find happiness in seeing them happy... i took at a look at my actions and how it affected other people... people that i cared about... so if quitting poker took that pain away from them wasn't it the right choice even if i'm working a 9 to 5 that i'm not totally crazy about? everyone has to sacrifice something they love... this was my time
     
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    MPAC?
     

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