I just wanted to get the Vag’s perspective on this one, it intrigued me. It’s not a ‘real life’ situation but I think it makes a good point (sorry that it’s a long post)…. Background: So, I’m in a Human Resources Management class, and a few weeks ago our prof gave us some workplace harassment scenarios for homework. We had to read the scenarios, jot down notes about how the situation should be handled from an HR perspective so we could discuss them in class. Once in class, he split us into group and assigned each group a scenario to discuss. It’s not the scenario I’m really concerned with, but one of my classmates’ reaction/comments, but I thought I'd include it for reference. The scenario my group got went like this (this isn’t the full text, these are just cliffs from what I can remember, I cant find the actual sheet at the moment): --- Business hires a contractor to do some work. Contractor visits office, hits on Secretary, and asks her on a date. She says, “I’m sorry, I have a boyfriend.” Later that week Contractor sees Secretary with her friends at Local Bar. Contractor sends her a drink, and then goes over to talk to her while she’s drinking said drink. Contractor says, “I’m sorry if I made you uncomfortable the other day.” They talk for a few, then he leaves. Next week, Contractor visits Business much more than is probably needed, always stops to talk and flirt w/ Secretary. Secretary gets uncomfortable with these interactions, goes to talk to her HR Manager. --- My discussion group included two other girls, a guy and me. Part of our discussion goes something like this: FemaleGroupMember1: He’s harassing her; the HR Manager needs to do something MaleGroupMember: But she never said “No” to his advances, and she accepted the drink. FemaleGroupMember2: Yes she did, she said, “I’m sorry, I have a boyfriend” MaleGroupMember: Right, but that doesn’t really mean “No”, and could imply that “If I didn’t have a boyfriend, I would go out with you” Me and the other 2 females: Ohhhhhhh, really? (We all looked a little astonished and you could see the light bulbs going off over our heads) End Story. So, my question to the Vag (especially the guys in here) is, is this guy right? Does he have a point? Does “I have a boyfriend” not always = a rejection? Why?