I found convincing evidence (convo at the bottom) that the girl I've been seeing lied to me about seeing other people. Now I'm really unsure what to do. Back story: This girl and I dated a few years ago, but she broke it off with me before she went abroad. We didn’t talk for a couple years. A few months ago, she comes on to me at a party and we end up hooking up. This leads to a relatively casual relationship. Since we’re both stuck in our hometown until grad school, with no other friends around, we’re basically a couple without the actual label for several months. I brought up the label thing once or twice, she danced around it. I was fine with it, convinced I was the only one she was seeing. Suddenly she becomes distant, emotionally and physically. The sex practically stops. I thought maybe it’s because she started taking the pill, but even when we have sex she asks me to wear a condom. She says she’s forgetting to take the pill regularly. Currently: Things have dragged out almost three months like this--hanging out basically as friends, rarely hooking up. Recently, she came over and we have sex for the first time in almost six weeks (awful, I know). She checks her email on my computer, forgetting to sign out. I go to sign in my account, it logs into hers, and I can’t resist checking her messages. One conversation explains to a female friend how things aren’t going well between us: “I'm totally ready to start new things, but it's proving very hard to extricate myself from all this junk at home. [xnthuzst] hates me, which is rough because now I have no friends for real. I just don't want to make out with him anymore. So he naturally feels weird. So we don't really hang out.” Seeing this is really upsetting, to say the least. But then I found this chat between a close male friend of hers, whom she visited a month ago out in LA. They’ve been friends for a while, so I previously trusted there was nothing more going on: Her: : ) Michael: heeeeyyyyyyyyyy i was in a meeting Her: hollerrrrrrrrr Michael: so the question is, when are you coming back to L.A. Her: see now, don't say that, because i totally will come back and hop on in to that bed ..somewhat inappropriate conversation for work Michael: hahahahh you shoudl come back early june and we can go to la playa Her: hey, you just tell me when, and i'll totally come out we all know i won't really have a job by then Michael: hahaha alright, well i enjoyed your presence, so i'll let you know the next time you can come...maybe you'll be able to stay a bit longer next time ...jsut get a job in l.a. and crash at my apt. no one will care Her: haha word maybe michelle a-go-go will i mean... (still at work) Michael: yo, what did you say? my boss walked by so i had to close it Her: me: haha word maybe michelle a-go-go will i mean... (still at work) good thing you closed it Michael: maybe she will what? Her: care if i'm sleeping in your bed Michael: oh you know what, fuck her Her: uh oh trouble in paradise Michael: nah, i just got a good night sleep last night and came to my senses Her: many fish in the sea many asians in california Michael: yeah, i dont need to be chasing after any f***in girls Her: and now she'll come after you wait for it … The convo eventually ends with a big “mmmwah” from her. I know for a fact this guy has been seeing this other girl, Michelle, casually. My pseudo-gf knew this too, and clearly refers to her. So what do you guys think? Does this conversation sound like they’ve been hooking up? I want to confront her, but don’t want to make the wrong assumptions. I’m also unsure how to approach the situation, considering how I did technically snoop around her emails. Sorry for the length... but any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys.