not sure if this should go here, on topic, or wherever, so if its the wrong spot, im sorry. just want serious talk and not 12 pages of flames in offtopic. Ok so situation is a little complicated. Me and my current roommate have been friends for 12 years. Recently she came into a situation where she had nowhere else to go so I let her move in. We have been friends with benefits which I think needs to stop as it just complicates stuff way too much. We both agreed we don't want a relationship with each other as we just aren't right for each other that way. Anyway she has a female friend over and introduces us. There is immediate chemisty between me and this girl and we hit it off. Now after a while we (the roommates friend and I) are interested in each other and want to possibly consider pursuing more. The roommate is mad now and says that I need to go find another girl and that this is her friend and if we did date that her and her friend wouldn't really be friends too much because in her words that's just how things work. I don't think she should have the right to question who might make each other happy and she should embrace it instead of trying to push us apart. Even if her friend and I got together we would still be close with my roommate, I mean I lve with and talk to and see her everyday. I sum it up to jealousy, but she said it isnt that but she didnt introduce her friend so she could play cupid for us. she wants her friend to be her friend and me to not consider anything with her friend. i wouldnt have a problem with my roommate getting into/hooking up/dating on of my friends. i could really care less. Ive tried breaking off the benefits portion as i think its a huge complication while im living with her, but she got all pissed off about it and summed it up to me wanting to be with her friend and that its fucked up that i wouldnt want to still mess around with her while we are single. AHHH! this is fucking stupid and its driving me crazy. i am into her friend and ya the easy thing is just to say fuck it and not be into her friend anymore, but how many people does she have the right to drive away? Anyway does she have any right to be mad or is she just irrational?