OK I'm 22. I've dated a few girls in my life. Longest relationship I've had lasted 6 months, and she was the only girl I ever loved, but she dumped me because she wanted to get married ASAP and I wasn't ready to get married. More and more I get the feeling that love, atleast the idea of love I've been brought up to believe in, doesn't exist. I've always had the picture of meeting the girl, going on a few dates, having sex, becoming exclusive, falling in love, and eventually getting married and having kids. However, it seems that this is just fantasy, and reality is actually a much different place. Typically I sleep with the girl on the first date, and the relationship fizzles out after a few weeks/months. I actually prefer not to do this, but from experience if I don't sleep with them and try to take it slow, they stop talking to me and I hear through the grapevine that she thought I wasn't interested because I didn't make a move. (even though I go for the hand hold or the kiss if it feels right). I'm not complaining or whining or anything. This is mostly just a question of reality vs fantasy. Are my exceptions too detached from reality? Do things rarely go that way?