Does how long someone has been single determine datability v. poll

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Does the amount of time someone has been single affect whether you would date them?

  1. Yes, if a person has been single for a short period of time I'd be less likely to date them.

    25.3%
  2. Yes, if a person has been single for a long period of time I'd be less likely to date them.

    4.0%
  3. It does not matter how long or short a time they have been single.

    66.7%
  4. Other (explain please)

    4.0%
  1. notsousual

    notsousual New Member

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    This thread was inspired by a conversation I had with a 30-something guy, and it kinda caught me off guard. He was talking about moving in way early on a new girl (read: while she was still in a relationship) and asking her out because he thinks that "the good ones don't stay on the market for long". This kind of raised a lot of questions for me, and I thought I'd bring it to the vag to get a few different outlooks.

    Do you think that how long a girl has been single is directly related to how dateable she is/isn't? Do you feel if someone has been single a short time she's less datable? Do you think if she's been single a long time, she's more dateable? Why or why not?

    And hell...ladies, how about you throw in your opinions about men on this too.

    Myself and another vag'er are pretty interested in the answers to this.
     
  2. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    his statement has little to do with your poll though.

    It's just logical that they are likely to get back in a relationship pretty quickly.
     
  3. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    People have different reasons for being single or in a relationship. Do you really think a girl/guy that has been in a relationship for just not being lonely is more datable than the single girl/guy who did not want to settle? I think the answer is no. At the same time I might go on more carefully with a guy that has been single forever because he is a commitment phob. generally tho, If I think some one is a good person and compatible with me, I doubt I care how long he had been single or in a relationship.
     
  4. notsousual

    notsousual New Member

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    His statement lead me to think and ponder, and want to know the results of the poll. Why he wants to move in on said girl while she's still in a relationship is irrelevant to the poll in it's entirety, yes.
     
  5. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    no i mean his statement that "good ones don't stay single long". Because they are going to be attacked by every single guy that ever looked at her. Plus she's likely to go out a whoring and prob fall for someone that managed to get his dick in her.
     
  6. Thelonius

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    In my experience, this is really only true with girls who have weak personalities. When their whole life is their relationship/partner, then yeah they're gonna be looking to get back in one pretty quick. But I've known some really hot, desirable girls that had extended periods of being single just because they were busy doing their own thing.
     
  7. notsousual

    notsousual New Member

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    I beg to differ, however. From my experience (and speaking mostly about how I conduct myself), yeah guys come from the wood works when you're newly single, but I'm not even in the head space to even look at them really, let alone attempt to date them or what not. I do not and have not ever gone out and whored around. I keep to myself, deal with whatever internal situation the last relationship left me in and only when I'm ready (generally upwards to a year later) will I start dating again at all.

    That is mostly what caused me to make this thread. I see someone newly single as someone who likely still has baggage and attachment issues to their ex, depending of course on the seriousness of the relationships, etc. As such, I generally don't want to date someone who is very newly single. I kinda took his statement as he viewed someone who has been single for a long time someone not worth dating, cause obviously no one wants to date em kinda thing. Just wanted to garner other opinions.
     
  8. notsousual

    notsousual New Member

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    In the talks I've had about this, the type who jumps from relationship and relationship and isn't very comfortable being alone (i.e. the girl that's had a bf straight since she was 16 or w/e) will act in this manner quite frequently in our observations.
     
  9. Nomad

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    i've been single for 3 months now, haven't dated any girls since the last actual relationship. :dunno: does that mean i'm undesirable? possibly, it means there wasn't any desire for someone of my personality/looks during that time meaning my value is lower than others......i think
     
  10. Kev07

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    this poll needs to get converted to a falconer poll :rofl:

    back on topic. I don't usually look too much into it. sometimes if they have been single for a long time I may look at it 2 ways.
    1. if the girl seems pretty high quality, then I feel like she's really picky and I want to be the guy that breaks through her barriers, that's always fun.
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    2. nobody wants them lol

    if they have been single for a short period of time, I tend to look at them as more of a fling :dunno:

    i take it back about not looking too much into it :rofl:
     
  11. notsousual

    notsousual New Member

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    I know, I suck at polls....sorry :rofl::embd:
     
  12. BoomerP

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    I think that if for some reason I know that someone just got out of a relationship, then I'd give them alittle breathing space before trying anything I otherwise would have done
     
  13. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    I am not into dating the newly single. Usually that's way more drama than I'm looking for :rofl:
     
  14. Vysion

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    This has nothing to do with your poll.

    But this is obviously true because the most beautiful women will get hit on all the time so they have their choice in men to date. If a woman was constantly getting attention from men of course she wouldn't stay single for very long.
     
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    ifl

    work is owning my soul this week
     
  16. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    :werd: being someone's rebound isn't very fun
     
  17. JoJoBee

    JoJoBee Hanging out with my chicks! OT Supporter

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    Interesting pole. I think that it really doesn't matter. Everyone is different and they deal with their previous relationships differently depending on that peticular relationship.
     
  18. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    Exactly. :hs:

    Cause what inevitably happens is I'm all into them they they're still thinking about their ex occasionally.... blah. No thanks! :mamoru:
     
  19. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Fucking shit I chose the wrong option.

    I wanted the first option but I chose the 3rd one. :mad:
     
  20. JoJoBee

    JoJoBee Hanging out with my chicks! OT Supporter

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    fail. :mamoru:
     
  21. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    :run: can jmezz has unvote :run:
     
  22. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Mega fail.
     
  23. JoJoBee

    JoJoBee Hanging out with my chicks! OT Supporter

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    it's ok.
     
  24. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Delete the thread and remake it strictly because I fucked my vote up.
     
  25. JoJoBee

    JoJoBee Hanging out with my chicks! OT Supporter

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