Do your past failed relationships motivate you in any way?

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  1. Drilldo

    Drilldo Active Member

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    [FONT=verdana, arial, helvetica]I have to admit that's where some of my motivation for excersise and achievement comes from [​IMG] I don't know if this is healthy or not... I mean you shouldn't base your goals on anyone but yourself but on the other hand, how could you not be affected by past relationships?[/FONT]
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    we see vanity as mini triumphs against a lifelong battle of depression, self-deprecation, social-anxiety, lost loves, betrayal, personal shortcomings, body-image issues and more.
     
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    I think I am going to write that on my bathroom mirror :hsd:
     
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    I started working out because of a past relationship ending so bad. Gave me motivation...plus I was angry. If that's what you mean.

    Been working 6 days a week since...going 7 months strong :wiggle:
     
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    i internalize all the tricks my ex's used on me and now its part of my arsenal lol
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    not really, just because I broke up with most of them for good reasons :dunno:
     
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    good reasons?
     
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    Unlike the average man, when a woman is in a relationship she is constantly evaluating how she is being treated, what she's getting, etc.

    And unlike the average man, if she isn't getting what she wants, she will look to get out of the relationship and find another man to give her what she wants.

    If more men would follow suit, there wouldn't be nearly as many people in miserable relationships.
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    feeling weren't there anymore
     
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    Yeah, it jaded the fuck out of me.
     
  11. Drilldo

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    I lost 80lbs in six months because of one of mine :hsd:
     
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    not really. :hs:
     
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    Don't they affect you, how you live your life and how you view potential mates?
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    there was only one time that I was truly burned (I pretty much broke up with every other guys I've dated)...and even then I wasn't burned for a heartbreaking reason. I pretty much was just like "oh well, I could do better anyway" and I did :)
     
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    current relationships are more motivation for self improvement than past failed ones.
     
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    In some ways. During my last LTR, I put on some pounds, "got comfortable" or whatever. After breaking up, I lost the weight (30lbs! Wehoo!) and I'm more aware of my weight now. No, I dont think he broke up with me just b/c of the weight, but I know it wasnt healthy and loosing it made me feel better about getting a new guy (which I have :) )
     
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    Both motivate me, but in differnt ways. One is an "I love you and want to be better for you" and the other is a "fuck you I am going to be better then I was".
     
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    I guess it just hurts when somebody likes you, you spend some time together, get to know each other then they decide they don't like you. You can't say "well they don't know me" because they actually do to some extent.
     
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    Yeah nothing like a failed relationship to motivate weight loss. Like I said above I lost 80lbs in six months from one of mine :o
     
  20. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Is that what happened to you? Or you are assuming this is what I did? I'm thinking you are relating your story to this but I wanted to just check in case I had to clarify later.
     
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    The Secretary My domestic skills will rock your socks off!

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    Honestly, mine have helped me able to see through alot of bullshit that men throw around. Smoke screens generally dont work with me anymore. You would have to be extremely smooth to get past me. Its not even just in a dating relationship its in life in general. Your only naive once.......hopefully.
     
  22. Drilldo

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    Yeah.
     
  23. Xtreme2k2

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    true.

    Ah, I see.


    As for me, I've never had any past relationships. So I have nothing to contribute to this thread. :hsugh: :o
     
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