Do you view relationships

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  1. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    as a power struggle?
     
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    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    no because if a bitch gets out of line, i smack her ass.


    lol im just kidding but no not really
     
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    A successful relationship has nothing to do with power whatsoever; it's an equal partnership. In order to be equal, one person should not hold any kind of power over the other person -- they should be acting/deciding on important things as a joint effort.
     
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    Sort of.

    I wouldn't use the words "power struggle" because it's not so much an adversarial thing, but it doesn't work right when the man allows the woman to dominate. Avoiding that requires one to exercise power.

    Unfortunately, most of us grow up being told the opposite.
     
  8. Cerridwen

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    Not at all.
     
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    Balance of power.
     
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    To quote Dave DeAngelo:

    "You want a 50/50 relationship with a woman? That means she owns you."
     
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    Women act like they don't have the power by DEFAULT.

    Hintbot sez: Girls, your naughty bits give you plenty of power over men. You don't need more.
     
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    no not a power struggle. But women know how to get men wrapped around their finger.

    But no one should be in power or desire to have the power. Both should realize what it takes to both be happy

    Problem is, many dont work like that
     
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    So then what is the correct balance? How are we as men supposed to treat women? As equals? As inferior?
     
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    :werd:
     
  16. Cerridwen

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    That doesn't make any sense.
     
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    Neither. Men and women simply have different roles in the relationship and will never be "equals." Put simply, it works best when the man leads and the woman supports him. (Note: leading does not mean ruling with an iron fist, and supporting does not mean being subservient. It just means that the man must have a backbone, and the woman must be an asset in everyday life rather than a liability.)
     
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    :werd: David DeAngelo may know quite a bit about picking up women and getting laid, but when it comes to anything he has to say about relationships and long-term committments, I basically ignore his advice.
     
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    Well said. I don't really have time right now to qualify the Dave D statement... I'll be back later to explain myself.
     
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    I think if you view them as power struggles you are coming from a place of fear
     
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    I think if you view them as power struggles, you're focusing on the wrong thing. Looking at a relationship as anything other than a relationship takes away from the meaning and the good aspects of it. Maybe it's just me, but a relationship is supposed to be a companionship, where each individual has different things to offer to the other person. :dunno:
     
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    I think typically one person takes the lead. I don't think it has to be the male though, and I think the role shifts back and forth between as the situations change.
     
  23. Cerridwen

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    This is how it is in my relationship, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
     
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    A relationship is a win/win situation. You both should be happy with the decisions that are made.

    If you're not both winning, you're both losing.
     
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    Not at all.
     

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