Do you snoop ANY of your SO's shit?

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Do you snoop?

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  1. Ari1979

    Ari1979 New Member

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    everyone knows what i'm talking about... do you?
     
  2. Miss Red

    Miss Red New Member

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    No. I trust him. We've always been brutally honest with eachother. Snooping=no trust.
     
  3. Ari1979

    Ari1979 New Member

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    I've snooped because i'm overly jealous and protective but still trusting :dunno:
     
  4. ridah626

    ridah626 OT Supporter

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    nope. in order for them to trust you you have to trust them.
     
  5. demosnat

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    No reason to. If he's doing something extraordinarily stupid, i'm sure he has the good sense to delete texts/IMs etc.
     
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    I see snooping as an autopsy for a relationship.

    If you know some wack shit has gone down, there is unquestionable merit in finding the truth to know and learn from it. But once you've cut it open and placed its innards in jars, there is really no going back.

    Be judicious.
     
  7. HuskiRuski

    HuskiRuski Cardinal Fan

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    doing it leads to an endless cycle of mistrust.
    there's no reason to do it unless you really have serious suspicions to. and if you really have suspicions to, chances are snooping isn't the best solution.
     
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  8. Mugen92GS-R

    Mugen92GS-R New Member

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    Absolutely not. I trust her completely :)

    EDIT (one year later): I wrote this 3 days after my GF of the time cheated on me.... hahahahaha.
     
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    Nope... I trust her 100%... If i have any question as to what she's doing I ask.
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rofl: Sounds like your relationship is still going strong :hsugh:
     
  11. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    i check her phone randomly
     
  12. Kirbys Autumn

    Kirbys Autumn Mrs. Kirby McSpic

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    Nope. I have complete trust in my fiancee and he's never done anything to make me suspicious of anything.
     
  13. Ranger-AO

    Ranger-AO I'm here for the Taliban party. Moderator

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    And to find out who the other guy is (Lutheran minister), confront his adulterous ass, get him into counseling as a "last chance" offer, and then expose him when he continues fucking every pussy in sight.

    Or that's what I would do if something like this ever happened to me. :hsugh:
     
  14. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    lol dont be an idiot, if there is another guy you should find out about it and bail asap. else just blissfully be unaware.
     
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    nope not with my husband because i trust him 100%. However in the past i have been guilty of doing this with some of my ex's because they were giving me reasons not to trust them.
     
  16. demosnat

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    Yeah this is why I don't snoop. Anything they aren't going to bother hiding, (they aren't thinking about), its probably either old or innocent. I'll end up getting upset over an old photo or something, and its not like i'm discovering anything, and I feel like crap for no reason.
    I would much rather have my relationship free of old pictures and texts he never bothered to get rid of, than snoop on the off chance he's too stupid to hide something major.

    Edit: with that said I found out my x was doing H and got rid of him b/c I was snooping, but this was after I had a LOT (too much, i'm stupid) reason to believe something was up. Retrospectively he was borderline retarded though.
     
  17. giapia

    giapia Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you re

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    i don't...he does -___-
     
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    Emfuser Nuclear Moderator Super Moderator

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    Absolutely not :nono:
     
  19. dloseke

    dloseke Noobish Silver Member

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    I don't snoop...I trust her. If she does something I question, I ask her and thats that
     
  20. Falconer

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    lol, it's funny because you know he does.
     
  21. Falconer

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    You know, I'm really torn on whether or not it's bad to snoop. Please note I didn't say "wrong." I said "bad." Obviously it's wrong.

    But I also believe that truth supersedes all... so if you have to employ unconventional means to find out the truth, I can't really believe that it is bad.

    I would go first off of gut feelings.

    Hypothetically speaking, if I ever had a desire to snoop, it would have been triggered by a gut feeling.
     
  22. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    But what about if your SO doesn't even do anything to make you suspicious he/she is cheating. What if you are just so insecure you feel the need to constantly check their phone/Myspace/facebook/whatever, just to remind yourself that they aren't cheating (supposedly)?
     
  23. Falconer

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    Then you need to decide if you are comfortable morally with the aftermath of having snooped.
     
  24. FloppyCock

    FloppyCock New Member

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    I'm pretty surprised that people are split so evenly on this one.
     
  25. V!

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    "There's nothing like eavesdropping to show you that the world outside your head is different from the world inside your head"

    I'm a guy, I know how they operate, it's them i don't trust
     

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