Do you have trouble saying 'I love you' to someone you are dating?

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  1. Ivandrago

    Ivandrago I must break you.

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    Those aren't words people just randomly say to anyone...usually. Seems like after having your heart broken by someone who you were madly, deeply, utterly & truly in love with...you have trouble saying those words to someone else, because after that person, you haven't found anyone suitable to say it to. Someone of the same caliber, the same level of attraction, both mental and physical, and you just can't get past the 'i like you' or 'i like you a lot and want to be with you' stage. That 'I love you' just won't come out.

    Does anyone else have the same issue? :sadwavey:
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Only hard when I don't love the person.
     
  3. Ivandrago

    Ivandrago I must break you.

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    Well what if that first person ruined you in a way? The only person out of a certain number that you truly loved and said it to...if they break your heart, you might simply not trust anyone enough anymore to admit that you love them.
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    The first person can only "ruin" you if you allow them to "ruin" you. Takes time, growth, numerous things.

    How long has it been since she broke your heart?
     
  5. Ivandrago

    Ivandrago I must break you.

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    Who says it's me? I'm asking this question for a 'friend.' :fawk:

    And...it has been...8 years. Haven't met anyone of the same caliber. Had relationships since then, but never had the desire to say 'i love you' to any of those women.
     
  6. wolfskymoon

    wolfskymoon Guest

    Then he doesn't love them, that's the way it is.
     
  7. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    I've had it said to meand had issues saying it back before.

    Now that I feel it I have no hesitation saying it back.

    It's a phrase I don't throw around. The first time I said it I had it thrown back in my face (8 month relationship, bitch laughed and told me she was fucking my best friend) so was hesitant, but when it feels right it will feel right.
     
  8. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    A little bit the first time.

    Other than that, no.

    But I haven't had any traumatic experiences with saying it :dunno:
     
  9. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    It's just words. I think people put too much weight on it. When I was young I was convinced it held some sort of power, but now I know better. It's an expression of emotion, not a marriage proposal.
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    :werd: :werd: :werd:

    Its a goddamn word/phrase, thats it. I feel it takes the actions/person behind those words to prove it. If they haven't proved it to you before they said it, or vice versa, then its just a hollow statement.
     
  11. chlywly

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  12. vodkacollins

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    are you being too picky? and are you comparing every girl to that relationship 8 years ago? if so, you need to let go. its normal to compare for a while, but 8 years is a long time, and thats not healthy.

    why did it end with the girl 8 years ago?
     
  13. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Yes, it's just words, but they are words that mean a lot to some people.

    To me it's not something I throw around without meaning it simply to get laid/whatever.
     
  14. Ivandrago

    Ivandrago I must break you.

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    She moved back home to Morocco. :wtc:

    And i've dated after her, had a few longer relationships. But never said 'i love you' to any of those women, and it's starting to bother me a bit.
     
  15. vodkacollins

    vodkacollins New Member

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    if you loved her so much, why didnt you go with her? if its because you were not willing to do that, then shes not as perfect as you are making her out to be. you need to realize that there are other girls who can have her same positive qualities AND live near you. you need to move on from your ex before you can love someone new
     
  16. coldstone

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    Nope. I start off with I like you's and move to I love you's. Never a problem.
     
  17. BATMAN

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    eh, never a huge problem with me.
     
  18. Ducman69

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    Not a problem if its true, but it does suck to feel obligated just to say it back when its said to you.
     
  19. GPLegend

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    What does it really even mean?? My girlfriend told me she loved me last week. I didn't really know what it meant about her feelings toward me.

    I know if I said it, it would mean I would do pretty much anything for her.
     
  20. MossMan813

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    I've said it to three people in my life on a romantic level. Once in middle school - obviously not love. The other two were serious relationships - once 5 years ago when I was ~20, and I meant it. The girl I'm with now I've said it to and mean it very much. There's not much I wouldn't do for her.
     
  21. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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  22. Falconer

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    why would you say it to someone you didn't love?

    To get them into bed? :squint::eek3::naughty::rofl:
     
  23. coldstone

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    It wouldn't be so hard to say if sex was all you wanted. :mamoru:
     
  24. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    i rarely say it even to my wife
     
  25. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    showing > saying

    talk is cheap
     

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