do you feel prone to relationships/singleness

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  1. bigfodee

    bigfodee Active Member

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    of the last 6 years ive been in relationships for about 5 and a half of it... they shortest one being 4 months. i left for marine corps boot camp in janaury and was away from my gf for 3 months.... we wrote each other all the time but then when i got home for my week of leave we had fun but sometimes she seemed odd. so the day before i was leaving for infantry school she said she felt like she changed (which i could really see in some areas) and this wasnt workin anymore. i was like whatever, cause i knew i didnt want to marry her, but she was hot and fun and a handful in the sack so i was a bit sad to see that go, but whatever.

    went to infantry school for 9 weeks... been home for just over a month now (im in the reserves). i find myself lonely for the company of a woman. not necassarily sexually.. not that im a player but i could get some if i wanted. so whats the damn deal here? i feel like im always in relationships and i dont want to be in one right now, which is kinda how i always feel after the novelty of a new relationship wears off. it seems like ill go out with whoever as long as they are decent lookig and fun. so i have no interests right now yet it feels like theres this big gap in my life :(



    thoughts?



    cliffs: im always in a relationship, i dont wanna be tied down, but i feel all lonely and shit :(
     
  2. Trickypants

    Trickypants OT Supporter

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    I lean much towards the side of always being single...:hs:

    I'm 28 years old, my longest relationship was two months...for some reason people just always seem to want to cut me loose..:dunno:
     
  3. Bruticus

    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    I dont need a relationship to be happy, but being in one can make you more happy. My last major one I wasn't that happy, and just like you, I knew I didn't want to marry her so there wasn't much point in continuing it.

    With regards loneliness, if it gets bad for you (doesn't for me, im fairly independant that way) you should either just go out with your mates lots, or if that doesn't work, do as you said and just go out with randoms until you find someone you really like.
     
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    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    Jake maybe you're too clingy or really upfront and you freak people out rather quickly? I don't know, could be a thousand things :p But two months really isn't that long a time :(
     
  5. JordanClarkson

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    I've been in a relationship every year since I was 14 with the exception of 15. Yeah it does get lonely when I'm single for awhile. I've tried to accept it before but somehow I manage to find myself in a relationship again. I'm going to try the casual dating thing this time around. :hs:
     
  6. ferrari_stallion

    ferrari_stallion pwning OT's Porsche fans

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    :werd: I've been called clingy by a girl before and I guess I am to an extent...relationship luck hasnt been the greatest for myself lately either
     
  7. ProneToEpisodes

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    I love to love and be in relationships... However I knew I needed a break from my last bf after we broke up. I took a good 8 months to clear my head and make some stupid decisions.
     
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    AmCo Haters goin' Hate

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    team single here!
     
  9. tehexile

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    im single, always have been single............. i need a girlfriend to help me get over a broken heart :(
     
  10. chica&buddies

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    :rofl:

    i'm the same way... i think i'm destined to be single for the rest of my life. tho, as i've stated before, i'm honestly not quite so sure that marriage is for me. i've had one (when i was 18... 5+ years ago) official relationship that lasted 6 months. i've been with guys since then, but they've all been fwb relationships (not all involved sex).

    :o... you know what even crazier? :hs: the guys end up marrying the girl they're with after me. :eek3: :sad2: it's already happened twice, tho one ended in divorce. ... i still have yet to figure out what that says about me :(.
     
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    chica&buddies Active Member

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    i believe that's the reason that i haven't had more relationships. even tho i [think] would be okay single for the rest of my life, i find it pointless to continue a relationship that won't work out in the end, ie marriage.

    for example... my brother's been dating a girl fo 2.5+ years (i love her to death!), and he's about to head off for officer training school in the next few weeks. she's going to school for marine biology, and is pretty sure she'll be moving to cali. my brother's not following her out there. the situation caused a bit of drama/sadness (as she began to realize that maybe they wouldn't be together forever after all... even tho i even believe they're so compatible it's eery!).

    it's stuff like the above i tend to stay away from. :sad2: i'm trying really hard, but i tend to think logically in relationships which keeps me from getting myself into anything that probably wouldn't work out in the first place. :dunno:
     
  12. Freeze Time

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    team single. :hs:
     
  13. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Relationships are just not worth the pain, hurt, aggravation, torment, and shattered soul.

    Single. Definately.
     
  14. tehexile

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    i wish i had the chance to know what its like to have a relationship, then choose after that..................................... /cry
     
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    oh... i definitely disagree. i'd be lying if i hadn't been hurt in life, and each time i was hurt, the experience was obviously different. however, those experiences have made me who i am today... every experience carries with it a lesson we're supposed to learn. :)

    however, not only are there negatives to relationships there are positives as well.

    ;) i'm not sure if life would be as much fun if there weren't experiences we encountered that didn't shake it up a bit.
     
  16. bimmer318

    bimmer318 I'm out of applesauce

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    Well. I'm going to be 20 in a month and so far never had a gf. Oh well they will come when im not looking for them :)

    I think first you must love and be happy with yourself. I Don't think relationships are as important as people make it out to be.
     
  17. armond

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    Hmmmm, the company of a woman is great. Whether it be sexual or not, it is just great.

    Just try being single and having fun, see how you like. Some people are just prone to being in relationships. Currently I have been single for a year and a half. I have had a major relationship, it lasted a total of 5 and a half years... If it means anything, I was the one that broke it off.

    I love my life right now, but I do so sorely miss having ONE woman that I can depend on, it will happen eventually, but I am not holding my breath.
     
  18. Amanda Renee

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    i loved being in a relationship when i was in love and i wanted to be in it... i have been single for the past i think 9 months,.. and i thought i hated it.. but now that i am dating someone.. i kind of miss it honestly. i miss coming and going as i please and having time for everone and everything. but then again.. maybe im just not really that crazy about this guy... but i dont know.. but i liked being single for the most part but didnt realize it till i was in another relatioship kind of thing
     
  19. Trickypants

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    I'm definitely not clingy....just for some reason I'm apparently not the 'relationship' type...:dunno:

    I'm also not very proactive in talking to people/meeting at bars...I usually just end up falling into sex...:hs:
     
  20. RedVsBlue

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    Up until my current relationship I was always pretty much single. I would date here and there but relationships werent very appealing. I had major trust issues due to past events too, so that didnt help. I never ever felt the NEED to just have someone, and not be lonely. I guess I am a very independent person. Never did understand when people would go from one relationship to the next without a break...id ask and they would just say the "liked having someone there all the time". Doesnt make sense to me, but I guess everyone is different.
     

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