SRS Do you fall victim to these type of scenarios?

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  1. GND

    GND BBP! OT Supporter

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    You're the one who cares too much even when it's not reciprocated.... which you end up finding out later in a relationship.

    You're the one who is so damn cool to hang out with for the "joyride" with no real commitment, per say, from the other person b/c they're still hanging with other chicks, but not doing anything sexual.. just hanging out.

    You're the one who has discussed with you so called person you're supposedly dating that you want to take it to the next level and you get the answer of "well I guess" (no real concrete response to where it leads you on) so you're under the impression that you and this person are actually dating and have taken it to a more serious level.

    You're the one who receives a message out of the blue when you think things are moving up more levels (that you've both discussed before) only to find out your guy/girl all of a sudden wants to start seeing someone else on a more serious level, but hasn't yet made "the decision".

    You're the one who is asked things like "If this doesn't work out I want to know if I can still come back to you."

    This is all based on a "decision" that your so called "unspoken" relationship person has or hasn't made so it's about them and not you or your feelings and you're stuck wondering what you've done or why things are happening like this.
     
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    I cant say I have, maybe the first one a little, but if you're writing this in response to your SO's behavior, you should probablly leave them. :hs:
     
  3. GND

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    well he's not technically my SO really, but somewhat (I know that makes not sense).. the whole thing is so damn confusing. It's like he didn't or doesn't want to come to terms with what we have or had.. :dunno:
     
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    I think that instead of looking to the insignificant things. You should outline the big picture, and decide wether this person is a jerk or not. I think that you feel that you are getting a unfair treatment, and that you are balancing this person out into what subject he falls in. Well clearly this person belongs into the 'grey' zone,

    I always use the american constitution on people. Guilty until proven. So unless this person has commited a proven guilty crime against you, i think you should give him the benefit of the doubt. Stop bikkering about little stuff, be carefull, but enjoy life.
     
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    You're safe second. Girls do this a lot too. Either break it off completely, or use him as your safe second until you find someone better
     
  6. davinaem

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    you deserve better, IMO..

    but then again, you know how i feel about that. if hes looking to you as a 'safe second', show him where the door is.

    again, you deserve better :hug:
     
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    I don't really see this at "little stuff" it's more selfishness on his part.

    I didn't want to write out a long novel about it so I shortened a lot of things :hs:
     
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    yes, I know. :hs: it's just that a lot of what I've told you just doesn't make much sense. I hate confusing situations. :(
     
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    He clearly knows his position in life, you clearly lack the ability to put this person into a box. I think you look at life black/white too much, which is usually ok. But you also have to aknowledge that some things 'overlap' and this person is the overlapping person. Shifting from one zone into the other which makes him harder to define. I still say its small things. trust me you don't want to be an ant-fucker in life as we call it. Most people are selfish, and i suggest you take a good look at your own selfish behaviour before you condemn his. Reallly give it some slack space, you can't degrade a person and put him in a pre-defined box. He isn't a statistic, he's a human being like you. Which means he has his up and downsides. And as far as you is concerned you have the free will to either stay or leave him as you choose.

    If something doesn't feel right, you could always complain to him about it. IMHO it doesn't sound like intolerable but more like nasty behaviour. Have you even talked to him about it?
     
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    Actually he clearly doesn't know his position in life..... He's extremely confused as well.

    I have casually dated and have no issues with that, but when things are said to you to where you think it may go to the next level it's different.

    I'm hardly the one to be labeled as "selfish"

    yes we've talked. He's younger than I am so that could be an issue as well.

    I mean its not like I couldn't of dated/or hung out other guys when I was with him, but I just felt comfy and didn't want to persue anyone else.
     
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    :dunno: i guess it could be said that i care too much... but then again, i care for a lot of people, some without reciprocation. :hs:

    i don't get myself in those other "messes" cause i don't date. it's as simple as that...

    :wavey: monica :kiss:
     
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    My 7 year relationship was like that for the whole duration :hs:
     
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    first one
     
  14. Darketernal

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    I think you are very emotional and thoughtfull and.......he isn't. I think you should define him as 'chaotical' he seems not to have his strings attached properly on his lyre. A disharmonic typical guy who might be attractive, but doesn't have his life in gear, nor has a clear direction in his future. But its worthwhile a shot, i mean why not. You could always step out of the relationship when you found out that after getting to know him better, that he wasn't the right person for you. He seems to have caught your attention, and like a pretty mysterious guy. I'd say give it a shot. Especially if you liked the previous dates, i would pursue this.
     
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    :wavey: heya cutie stranger! Long time no see. :hug: Hope you're doing well. I haven't seen ya on the board in a while.
    I'm sure you've been taking exams and stuff. Hope all that goes or went well. ;)
     
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    yes :o
     

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