You're the one who cares too much even when it's not reciprocated.... which you end up finding out later in a relationship. You're the one who is so damn cool to hang out with for the "joyride" with no real commitment, per say, from the other person b/c they're still hanging with other chicks, but not doing anything sexual.. just hanging out. You're the one who has discussed with you so called person you're supposedly dating that you want to take it to the next level and you get the answer of "well I guess" (no real concrete response to where it leads you on) so you're under the impression that you and this person are actually dating and have taken it to a more serious level. You're the one who receives a message out of the blue when you think things are moving up more levels (that you've both discussed before) only to find out your guy/girl all of a sudden wants to start seeing someone else on a more serious level, but hasn't yet made "the decision". You're the one who is asked things like "If this doesn't work out I want to know if I can still come back to you." This is all based on a "decision" that your so called "unspoken" relationship person has or hasn't made so it's about them and not you or your feelings and you're stuck wondering what you've done or why things are happening like this.