Do you ever....v.single

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  1. Nomad

    Nomad Active Member

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    get the feeling after being shot down several times in a row that you're not at all desirable? for example, i got dumped 2 weeks ago or so and now i'm back out and hitting up girls and what not and i'm pretty much just being shot down left and right and my morale has slumped.

    anyone ever get in this frame of mind? how do you combat it?
     
  2. Kev07

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    it means youre not desirable and you should probably try to find out why(while still maintaining a healthy level of confidence)

    thats what i think.
     
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    Improve yourself until you are happy with you and then it doesn't matter what other people think
     
  4. Nomad

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    oh.

    well thanks for the advice :wavey:
     
  5. Vysion

    Vysion New Member

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    You don't let it affect you because you'll find that most women aren't worth your time anyways.
     
  6. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    This.

    They probably did you a favor by preventing you from wasting your time with them.
     
  7. Nomad

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    never really thought of it that way
     
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    I've been single for a while now and the one thing I've learned is that girls can smell fear like bees. If you go up to them and aren't confident, they will know before you even get there.
     
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    i toot my own fucking horn
    toot toot toot
     
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    You just have to dust yourself off, and think of the positives. I used to ALWAYS imagine the WORST when I would think about talking to a girl... since I've been getting my confidence back after my last relationship, I find myself thinking of the positives instead... which leads to me being better at approaching, and giving off confidence as a whole. Just the other night I complimented a girl on her dress and asked if I could buy her a drink, she said she had a bf, so I said have a nice evening and walked away. I still smiled... because the old me would have never even went up to her with something as silly to say as "i like your dress" :rofl:
     
  11. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    "doesn't matter" isn't going to help him get laid.
     
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    If I could toot my own horn I would never leave my house. :hsugh:
     
  13. THoC

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    how many girls are we talking about here? everyone gets turned down here and there. you have to keep at it until you find a girl that does like you.

    although i am curious as how you "hit up" on these girls.

    a friend of mine has amazing tits (real). this dude that she actually mentioned was cute comes up to her and says, i kidd you not, "nice tits. how much did they cost you?". she was not amused.
     
  14. Nomad

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    i'm talking about 4 or so.

    my style of "hitting them up" is just to basically shoot the shit and small talk them some.

    i never did anything like the guy you mentioned.
     
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    fluentinsilence New Member

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    Yeah, I pretty much gave up about 5 years ago and haven't been involved with anyone since. I got comfortable with it ("used to it"), so trying to re-enter the scene after that period of time is even more harrowing than continuously failing originally. I cut my losses and said the hell with it.

    I figure if I don't know what I am missing, I won't be disappointed. :o
     
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    Orly??? :hsugh:






























    not that horn :mamoru:
     
  17. Nomad

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    i don't wear my glasses most of the time
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    you never made it clear?
     
  19. Nomad

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    made what clear?
     
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    that you are interested
     
  21. Nomad

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    i did as best i could without coming off as creep (in my mind at least)
     
  22. Kev07

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    4 is nothingg :hsugh:
     
  23. Nomad

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    my self esteem isn't that high to begin with.
     
  24. Falconer

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    When I started studying PUA the first set I ever opened was a table of average looking girls at best. Like 6s. I was just doing it for fun, I figured it would be good practice because I already knew I was better looking than them and I really didn't care about the outcome.

    Anyway, I got shot the fuck down by all of them. It was hilarious. I was thinking "you girls are lucky to be talking to someone as hot as me." Of course I didn't say that, what I actually said was some fumbled up Mystery Method lines that I screwed up big time :rofl:

    And afterward, I was pretty upset. I was like "dude... I just got shot down by ugly girls... if I can't succeed with them how will I ever succeed with hot girls?"

    But then I was like "wait a sec. This is BS. All my gfs have been hot. I'm awesome. Fuck those chicks last night they were bitches."

    And then I moved on. And btw my current gf is hot, too.

    The reason I didn't do well with them that night is cuz I wasn't confident. I was like "durr what do you guys think about tattoos on girls? Oh really that's interesting cuz my cousin wants to get her bf's name tattooed on her but she's only 17 etc. etc."

    I remember one of the bitches was like "ok, why are you asking us this?"

    That one caught me off guard. I should have said "well you looked like someone who could give me an intelligent opinion but I must have misjudged you" ZING!

    For real dude, don't let it bother you. Just work on improving yourself and who cares if you get shot down by chicks. It's like when you start boxing or BJJ or something; you're gonna get schooled over and over when you first start out but over time you'll develop skills and then suddenly you'll have skills AND confidence.
     
  25. Nomad

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    :wavey:

    thanks homie...

    nice BJJ/Boxing analogy at the end. :rofl:


    my confidence has gone up though....last night my fraternity threw a party and some random ass Frosh girls showed up....they were all over the fraternity brothers and ditched the guys they were with...great feeling to have man...:bowdown:
     

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