Do you ever think about someone else during sex?

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  1. drinkdran0

    drinkdran0 New Member

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    I've found that with I think about another guy I've slept with when I'm having sex with my S.O. I feel so guilty because its just not right on any level... it's just that, that guy I think about was probably the hottest guy I've ever slept with, and the most memorable sex I've had. Any advice on this?

    I kind of feel like I need to think about him just to get off with my S.O :wtc: I mean don't get me wrong, he's my best friend and I love him, but maybe no spark?
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Ouch....it's time to break up sweetie
     
  3. Falconer

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    Yes, everyone does it. Yes, it's normal. But if you can't get off without thinking about someone else, then you're probably in trouble.

    But it's like looking at internet porn while you're spanking it even tho you have a gf. It's pretty normal.
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Seriously. I've never thought of anyone else. Ever. Reading this makes me feel uncomfortable as hell though just because the idea of it feels like cheating in a way to me.
     
  5. fray

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    :rofl: that was out of the blue.
     
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    Looking at porn while spanking it and thinking of someone else during sex are very different!
     
  7. antihero

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    I am 27 years old and have never done it and never plan too. It's not normal and it's not healthy.
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    True. I don't like to think about my bf thinking of other people when he masturbates, but I'm sure it happens....but if he thought of someone else while inside of me....that's a totally different story that would hurt
     
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    not really. what if youre just using them for a hole that night?


    anyhow, i think it's pretty normal, and healthy so long as it doenst become a crutch. theres always a time where you think the grass was/is greener...
     
  10. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    To be thinking someone else is kinda crazy. I would never do it. Well, I don't think I will ever do that.

    Haven't yet and don't plan on it!
     
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    I think of my roomate who is my best "girl" friend when I'm with the girl I've been seeing for 6 months. Sometimes it gets old and that helps me finish. I doubt its right but oh well.
     
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    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    WTF????
     
  13. dude101

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    i never thought of anyone else during sex...and never willl...

    THATS Just wrong in soo many levels:nono: but thats only if u ask me tho
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :o :nono:
     
  15. gkremian

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    If you are thinking about someone else during sex, it's time to end it. Clearly, it is a sign of you not being satisfied sexually, which may also point to a lack of emotional satisfaction as well. You may just have to start looking again, because clearly you know one of the things that you want: fantastic sex.
     
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    well i dont think about any other girls during sex. but sometimes after if she asks if i liked it, or asks if its the best..then i think of my best
     
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    Hey I never said its cool but it works. The old want what you can't have.
     
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    now she will feel guilty and have negative emotions, and she's gonna start associating the negative emotions and guilt with her SO, and blame him. then he's gonna think that he did something wrong.
     
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    Sorry :wtc:
     
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    When I was with my ex-fiance I found myself thinking about her best friend a couple times during sex, I had never cheated or anything with her I just thought her friend was hot.
     
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    A couple of times, or all the time? There is a difference.
     
  22. Falconer

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    I disagree. You better look at pics of your woman while you spank it, then.
     
  23. Falconer

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    btw I think last time this topic came up everyone agreed that it was normal.
     
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    I am completely 100% with you here... :barf:

    wtf people. how boring are your sex lives? if you are that hard up for variety, get your SO to pretend to be someone else :naughty:
     
  25. SlvrCivLT621

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    i have never thought about anyone else and quite honestly i don't think i could...i mean i'm so caught up in the moment and what is going on that my mind isn't on anything else...and like LadyGoodman said, i agree that i'd be hurt if he was thinking about someone else
     

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